ok so the title sounds a lot worse then it is. I am 17yo and when I was about 2 or 3 my mom was pregnant with another kid, I don't remember much but my parents are pretty old. So when my mom went into labor she gave birth but there was a ton of birth complications. I had a lot too but from the bits and pieces I was told it was a lot. Sadly the baby died the next day due to medical issues, and a month later my mom went through menopause so there was no way she could have more bio babies. I didn't find out about any of this till I was about 15 and they thought I was old enough to know. Its heartbreaking and I feel so bad for my mom but it made more stuff make sense.
Whenever someone asked how many kids she had she always no matter what said 2, and said the other one was at home. I didn't understand it at the time. She also likes to bring up stuff to me like "find a women early in life cause were old and you don't have your sister to help you" or "I am sorry you never got to be a big brother, have kids young". I feel bad for my mom and think she needs therapy or something but laying this down on a kid (she started doing this when I was 12) is just heavy. My parents wanted to try adoption but I guess we didn't have the income to do that either cause we were/are kinda poor.
I can see they are kinda worried/dissapointed that at 17 I have never had a GF and never been on a date. I have been asked out and I can tell girls are into me I am just not interested in any of that yet. Recently my mom told me "I wish you were able to meet your sister". I had enough of them pressuring me into getting into a relationship at 17 and having a family soon I kinda got miffed and said "I am so so so sorry about your kid, but can you please stop talking about the baby in front of me and to stop pressuring me into having a family early when I have no interest yet." I could tell she was sad and just hugged me and went to bed. I feel bad that I said it but I feel like it needed to be said cause every time they bring up the baby or me starting up a family cause they are old and gonna die soon it brings me down into a funk and just puts me in a bad mood.
idk I feel kinda scared by all of this, I know my parents are old and don't got a lot of time let (both are 69). I just think that they have taken away a semblance of my teenage years by pressuring me and making me stress and lose sleep over me not in a relationship and that I NEED to start a family so I am not left taking care of them alone.
TL;DR:I told my mom to stop talking about her dead baby in front of me and stop pressuring me into a relationship and idk what to think anymore
Submitted November 14, 2019 at 08:37PM by Question_momAITA https://ift.tt/2r0or7x
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