My [24M] girlfriend [22F] is getting *extremely* close with my family and friends and it's making me a little uncomfortable.

I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months. Honestly...it's been a bit rough, but most of the time it's good. She can be a bit controlling at times, she does things like wanting to know where I am at all times, wanting me to have location turned on on my phone and getting suspicious of what I'm doing if I deviate from work/home/gym/commute and am not with her, etc. She also gets angry with me and/or gives me the silent treatment sometimes if I don't agree with her or say something she doesn't like. However on the flip side, most of the time she is great; loving, fun and appreciates me.

However in the last couple of months she has been getting very close with my family and friends. She met my parents about 3 months ago (they live in a different state and came to visit), and since then she has been VERY close with my mom and sister. They seem to message every couple of days (more than I message her, I won't lie haha), and my sister and her seem to talk almost daily. She once complained to my mom about me not wanting to do something, and my mom then messaged me almost telling me to do it, which I felt a bit weird about. She also regularly buys and sends my parents gifts from her without telling me, which is a nice gesture, but I'd rather have some input and they be from the both of us than just her, she doesn't even sign my name on the card. I also feel a little iffy about how much she talks to my mom and sister in general; I don't know why but it just feels a little weird for her to be that close with them when we haven't even been together a year.

She has also become very friendly with my friend group as of late, to the point where she refers to my group of friends as 'our friends' now. She's been added to my friends' group chat on Facebook, and answers for the both of us to plans if anyone asks. I kind of feel like I have no say in anything anymore, that we just do whatever she wants to do. If she wants to get dinner with Fred, we get dinner with Fred because she's already said 'yes, me and efficientwallaby will come', and I don't want to make things awkward by cancelling. She's also asked a couple of my friends about my behaviour when I went out with them without her, which I got a bit annoyed about. I sometimes feel like I have nobody of my own anymore.

The real issue I have here though is, she has barely introduced me to her friends. I have met her best friend twice, and that's it. She blew up at me when she found out that I occasionally sent snapchats to said best friend (nothing sexual or even suggestive, she mostly just sent pictures of her dog), and basically acted like I needed her permission to talk to her best friend and mentioned how she hated how 'chummy' I was getting with her, which I thought was a bit of a double standard given how regularly she talks to my friends. As for the rest of her friendship group, they know I exist, but she's never introduced me to them. I've asked 'hey, if I come over to your house, why don't we do something with your friends?' since they all live in the same area, but she's always declined. I've met her parents and brother though in all fairness, but I don't message them regularly or send them gifts.

How do I bring all this up with her? Am I right in feeling a bit weird about the whole situation?

TL;DR: Girlfriend is becoming very close with my friends and family, when I haven't met most of hers, and it's making me a little uncomfortable.

Submitted October 01, 2019 at 11:48AM by EfficientWallaby https://ift.tt/2nIaaLt