Wife's [29F] father just passed away. We are closing on a house this week and I [29M] just found out she is cheating on me. Not sure how to handle this or react.
My wife and I have been together for 10 years (dated/engaged for 2, married for 8)
I somewhat recently got a new job (~8 months ago) and it has caused me a ton of stress but pays 3x my old job. This is the first job I've had that I can be proud of and with it we've been able to get to a position financially where we wanted to buy our first house. So after looking for about 1.5 months we found the perfect place, got an accepted offer on it way under what I would've been willing to pay and everything went smoothly.
3 weeks ago my wife told me that a friend of hers from work wanted to take a road trip to CA this month or so for a week just the two of them (wife's friend is a female). I literally thought nothing of it since I saw no flags and myself was extremely happy in our relationship. I hadn't felt this confident in myself in years either with the new job, buying a house, etc.
This week my wife's father passed away out of nowhere. It was completely unexpected and I took the next 2 weeks off of work to try and help her get back on her feet at least a little bit. Today we met up with the friend she had the road trip planned with. My wife walked away for a moment and I mentioned to the friend how the road trip would probably have to get postponed. The friend had no idea what I was talking about. This was the first time in my entire 10 (2 years dating, 8 years married) year relationship that I felt any weirdness at all about my wife. I brushed it off and acted like nothing happened.
Her phone has been acting up for a week and tonight was the first time she's asked me to look at her phone in a while. I fixed the issue (notifications on texts was off) and she was using my phone while I fixed hers. I started browsing reddit on her phone, she had 3 notifications, I shouldn't have but I did. I clicked the inbox and saw pages and pages of back and forth with different guys about shit I never wanted to hear someone say to my wife. Saw dick pics saw her sending htem nudes back, saw meetup times/places that coincided with random things she had been out for.
She doesn't know I know about this yet but I have ZERO clue how to react. If I found this out last week I would've asked for divorce on the spot most likely and stopped the house deal. Her dad JUST died I have no idea how to call off the house deal without being a complete asshole and dont want to bring this up now as again, her dad literally died 48 hours ago... I seriously dont know what to do.
TLDR: Wife's dad just died, we are closing on a house in less than 5 days, and she has been cheating on me. Not sure of the proper way to handle this.
Submitted August 25, 2019 at 07:57PM by throwaway65toda https://ift.tt/2Hrb6e9
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