My (F36) husband (M40) of 20 years is going on a men’s trip with some of his friends and he said there’s a 1% chance that he could sleep with someone else, how can I make him understand why that has hurt/effected me so much?

He told me that he “just wanted to put it out there so there’s a buffer in case it happens” although it’s “highly unlikely that it will because he’s not that kind of guy”.

I tried explaining to him that 1% is still huge, and is causing me to doubt his commitment to me if he thinks it could actually happen. I don’t know what to say to him to make him understand why it has effected me so much and why I am now questioning whether he should go on the ‘men’s trip’.

I’ve never been opposed to the trip before, I’ve never told him he can’t go out or hang out with his friends or anything, but now I don’t want him to go, because I know that the entire time he is gone I will be stressing out about whether he’s slept/sleeping with someone.

We have an amazing relationship and I’ve never doubted his commitment or love for me before. We have a very active and satisfying sex life and I’ve always been open to experimenting and trying new things, so there’s no reason he could be bored.

All his friends are also married long term and he’s never slept with anyone else before.

TL;DR Husband says there’s a 1% chance he could be unfaithful to me which has really upset me and made me doubt his commitment to me.

Submitted June 18, 2019 at 08:56PM by ZoeCathereine http://bit.ly/2IXm0rF