My (24F) boyfriend (23M) has masively improved his life in every way but is becoming incredibly arrogant as a result.

Throwaway because he knows my main account.Also english isn't my main language.Also on mobile. :) First of all a bit of backround.We've been together for almost 3 years and I have fallen for him the first moment I saw him. When we met he was in a pretty bad spot in his life , he was a bit chubby too , not a lot of money in the bank etc. But still, there was something that made me go crazy about him. He was always a pretty confident guy, with a very good sense of reality , attractive and so on. Now, it wasn't that hard for me to figure out that he wasn't on top of the world in any aspect , he was chubby, bad grades , didn't have a job etc. He told me that I "cought him in a bad year" . I didn't really care that much at that time and told him that I like him for who he is , always positive , always encouraged me , always made me laugh. But he told me that in 2-3 years he'll be a completly different person. I'm not gonna lie,I didn't belive him and I hate myself for it. However, I remember exactly it was on a friday night when his younger brother called him and informed him that he got a new job and started making good money(as good as a 19-20 yo can make). My bf congratulated him but after the phone call he told me that it's unacceptable that his younger brother will be better than him ,he told me that "starting from monday I will look for a job, only get good grades in uni , start lifting , learn spanish and take IT courses" . I just laughed it off , I mean how many times do we all say things like this and never do them..all of us at some point. But he did exactly that ,fast forward to present time , he slowly became what he said he will. He has an amazing body ,makes decent money , finished university with much better grades than me , and I didn't do bad. Got a car , looks better overall and so on. Now, I am very very happy for him , honestly ,I love him more than anything else and seeing him growing like this makes me really love him that much more and wanting to marry him that much more. But the problem is that he became very and I mean VERY arrogant . He used to have a charming confidence but now he basically thinks that everybody is below him. He even tells them this right into their face. He has a good circle of friends but all of them are old friends. It's literally imposible for him to make new friends because he will constantly put you down . He will make sarcastic jokes about everybody , laughing at everybody . To give an example,yesterday a friend of mine (F) came by our house to give me a lipstick i forgot at her place a while ago. Her and my bf basically never met as she is from another city. They had a bit of small talk and she asked him weather or not he thinks the city we live in is too big and exhausting because that's why she moved away , the city is very big and it's just tiring living here. Instead of a "haha, yeah we manage but the traffic sucks" no, he said something like " yes it's a big city and I'm sure it sucked for you but please don't compare me to you or anybody else. The city is just fine for me , more opportunities". I mean..what the fuck , he's not always this extreme but who says that to someone they just met? I need to mention that he treats me really good. Always tells me I'm his queen and that he'll do anything for me. And he really does, he is very kind and sweet to me and to his friends , but to all other people he is honestly a piece of shit. I really feel bad for posting this because he never treated me wrong and I feel like I am betraying him but I know that unless he changes he will be hated by everyone around him. Please don't suggest breaking up with him ,I love him more than life itself and he never ever treated me wrong. He buys me flowers every week , compliments me every day , sex is great and passionate, my parents love him , especially my father always says he likes him because he's so driven and ambitious and that's a how a real man should be . But I swear the moment he is out in public he is a completly different person and I don't know what to do about it . Thank you so much for taking your time to read this !

TLDR: Boyfriend of 3 years had a 180 attitude flip once he became succesfull.

Submitted June 23, 2019 at 04:17PM by throwaway38309 http://bit.ly/2x6XG1g