My (17f) mother (46f) had an affair. My dad separated from her, she is a completely different person to me now.

Me and my mom were extremely close. She was a best friend and a parent all in one, we almost never fought. I could tell she and my dad were having problems, I figured they were falling out of love and could use some marriage counseling.

Well 3 months ago my dad discovers she had been having a 6+ month long affair with one of her coworkers (a 65 yr man that I had met before). Ever since, she has acted horribly. At first she showed no remorse, she even tried to stay with the man she was having an affair with. She planned on divorcing my dad in June and taking half of his money. She is a pathological liar. I lost the woman I loved the most in this world. Am I being dramatic for almost having to mourn the loss of my mother? She is the opposite of who I thought she was. She is a lying, cheating, narcissistic, entitled, and quite frankly stupid, stranger that I don’t recognize.

The entire thing has been quite shocking. My dad was completely devastated. Ultimately, he cannot let go of my mom. I have begged him to not get back with her, but now they are trying to have a relationship again. He has scolded me about being nicer to her, when he was the one who vented to me about her and told me all the gory details of the affair. I have told my mother multiple times our relationship will never be the same, but she is in denial about this. She knows how I feel, she has apologized, there is nothing left to do but move on. But I can’t seem to let it go. I am so desperate to move away to college, but I still have 2 more months. I just want to escape the situation.

This has ruined the last half of my senior year, graduation, and summer. We talked about how sad saying goodbye on move in day would be before all of this. Now it is all I think about. I cannot wait until I don’t have to see my parents on a day to day basis. Is this what I need to help the situation? Space? I can’t cut my mother off, I still care about her. I want my dad to be happy but not if it means he gets back with my mother, is that wrong?

tl;dr My mother had an affair and she isn’t the same person to me anymore. I don’t want to cut her off, she knows how I feel and has apologized.

Submitted June 18, 2019 at 09:47AM by mghill14 http://bit.ly/2WRHLyj