I [21F] don't like the style of music my musician boyfriend [23M] and his band plays. Need advice on what to do.

Hey,

So I love my boyfriend. We met in college and were friends before dating. We have a ton in common outside of music, and love hiking and camping together. We are both studying CS. He is getting a CS degree to get an employable job, but his real passion in life is music, and he'll do that on the side unless or until a full-time music performance job comes up. He plays the guitar and is quite talented.

He does a lot of gigs, and he's invited me to all of them. He gets really excited when I show up and he likes showing me stuff that his band is working on. I dislike his music, but I've sucked it up to be supportive for him, but it's been getting really draining lately. I've gone to about 10 of his shows so far.

His favorite style of music is 70s and 80s classic rock, including bands like Led Zeppelin, Black Sabbath, The Rolling Stones, Rush, AC/DC, Eagles, Elton John, etc. Stuff that my dad used to blast all the time and that I hate. I understand that these bands of yesteryear had talents on their instruments and were musically solid. I just hate the sound.

Call me basic, but I prefer my top 40 music like T-Swift and Cardi B. That's just what I like. And my boyfriend doesn't belittle me for liking that stuff, but he's told me he doesn't like pop music because for him, in 2019, it's too mechanized and electronic, and he dislikes EDM a lot. Meanwhile I LOVE EDM. He is also more into technical guitar solos where I couldn't care less. I asked him once to cover Bruno Mars, and he said it wasn't really his style, but he did that once and it was quite sweet. But I could tell he wasn't into it, and he wants me to go to his shows.

Music means a lot to him, this is his number passion. I love him in every way except for this though. Is it possible to continue to be in a relationship with him even if I can't genuinely appreciate his number one passion in life? I honestly wish I could be his gf while not having to go to his gigs anymore. It's not my scene either, everyone there is way older than me and I'm usually the only girl or like one out of 2-3 girls (most of whom are older than me).

TL;DR: my boyfriend is a musician and I hate his style of music and don't want to go to his band's shows anymore. can i tell him that while still salvaging our relationship?

Submitted June 23, 2019 at 05:26PM by imimb201 http://bit.ly/2KwqokI