I [24F] have been seeing a guy [29M] who has the perfect personality, but our sex is very bad and I am only attracted to him when he's clothed

I have been seeing a guy for about a month now who, on paper, is everything I could want in a boyfriend and romantic partner. He is funny and smart, and he has a good job and really nice friends. We get along so well, and we're constantly laughing when we're together. It's all fun and wonderful until he wants to have sex. He's not completely bad looking - he dresses well and presents himself well, and when we're out together, I am attracted to him because of how fun he is to be around. But when it comes time to have sex and he's not clothed, I can't get into it. Our sex is really, really horrible, unless we're doing doggy (for obvious reasons), and even then it's just tolerable. I think he may be inexperienced, which is fine, as I am no expert either. I do know, however, that this is truly horrible, awkward, non-sexy sex.

I'm conflicted because it seems shallow to write someone off for not being physically attracted to them part of the time. He is the full package otherwise, and I don't want to lose him as a friend if I decide not to move forward with him romantically, but I don't know if I can handle not having sexual chemistry with him.

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EDIT - there are two issues at hand here. First, he is very awkward and clearly uncomfortable having sex and I like my partners to take charge. Second, he is very thin/lanky, which can be hidden with clothes, but cannot be hidden in bed. I would be willing to overlook either one of these two, but I can't overlook both at the same time.

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TLDR; dating a new guy who is the total package (smart, funny, feels like a best friend), but our sex is horrible, and I'm not physically attracted to him when he's naked. Not sure if I should move forward or move on. Sad to lose the friendship if I move on.

Submitted March 27, 2019 at 07:18PM by tinyj12345666 https://ift.tt/2uxW0wg