How can my brother [M30] and I [F25] better include our «new» half brother [M15] that we found out about 4 years ago?

4 years ago, we found out that we have a half brother (my father with an woman we didn’t know). My first thought was that this was a new born baby, and that we just didn’t know about the pregnancy.

I was so sad when I was told that this boy was already 11 years old. It felt like we had missed so much time with him. I thought about how lonely it must feel for him not to know who his father and family was. He didn’t know he had two older siblings.

His mother is amazing and she has given him everything.

My older brother [M30] is so great and he comforted me and focused on how this is an opportunity to get to know a new family member. He is so cool and I see how he’s a really great role model for our little brother.

He’s getting so big! He’s already 15 years old. He has grown so much and he’s turning into this super handsome and cool guy.

I’m finally understanding that he’s my brother. I’m starting to miss him because he really feels like a big part of my life.

We’ve been going with the flow and all that so we don’t overwhelm or pressure him. This has resulted in seeing him maybe 4-5 times during these 4 years. I wish I could see him more.

We always invite him to stuff but we don’t live in the same area. We live several hours apart all of us. My little brother has a lot going on with school. Also my older brother and I work full time jobs. So this has naturally resulted in that we don’t hang out every weekend.

It seems like he likes hanging out with us, but it may still be very new to him and he’s a little shy.

Is it weird that I want to see him more?

How can we include him in things in a natural way so we can spend more time together?

TL;DR: We found out 4 years ago that we have a little brother. We have met 4-5 times in 4 years. I’m wondering if it’s weird that I want to see him more. Any tips on how we can spend more time together (we have tried just inviting him to stuff but I think it’s still new/weird to him)?

Submitted March 03, 2019 at 01:21AM by SeaPerformer https://ift.tt/2C2U7Mj