My boyfriend and I live together in the same city as his parents, his younger brother lives across the country for uni. We've been together for 3 years, living together for one. My boyfriend and his brother have never gotten along, so when his brother needed a place to stay over Christmas it was agreed that his brother would stay with his parents (along with 5 other visiting relatives), while his grandparents would stay in the spare room at me and my boyfriend's apartment.
But then his parents decided it would be better if the grandparents said with them (our apartment is on the 3rd floor and they aren't great with stairs) so the brother would be staying with us. I had never met his brother before, so I was a bit nervous about having a stranger in my house, especially as my boyfriend told me that there had been a lot of friction between them in the past (though he didn't go into specifics).
At first things didn't go too badly, my boyfriend and his brother were being cordial to each other, and his brother seemed nice enough, although clearly not the most humble person in the world (bragged a lot about his own achievements, dominated conversations, etc).
The problem occurred on 26th December. My boyfriend went out with his cousins for some drinks in the evening and ended up staying at his parents house. His brother stayed at ours because he had to leave early in the morning to get home, and I stayed behind because I had a colossal headache. I went straight to my room, dimmed the lights, took some painkillers and listened to audio books until I fell asleep.
I woke up at about midday on the 27th and was surprised that my boyfriend was home but was sitting on the sofa, stony faced. Apparently he arrived home that morning just before his brother left, his brother asked him to fetch something from the spare room that he had forgotten, and on the floor in the spare room was a used condom. My boyfriend asked where it had come from and his brother nodded towards my bedroom door and said "sorry, bro".
I categorically did not sleep with his brother. I have zero desire to have sex with him specifically, and with the way my headache was I couldn't have had sex with anyone. I'm in love with my boyfriend, I don't want anyone else. (And the painkillers I was taking were only paracetamol/tylenol, nothing mind impairing.)
My boyfriend doesn't believe me at all. Apparently the stress between them when they were younger was partly because his brother "stole" 3 different girlfriends from my boyfriend, so my boyfriend just thinks his brother has been successful again. I tried to have a proper conversation with him but he was mostly just shouting and ranting and eventually stormed out of the apartment. He hasn't been back home and he told me not to contact him, which I've respected so far but I feel I really need to speak to him again.
I don't know what to do. I don't know how the condom got there, although I suspect his brother planted it to cause stress between us. I don't know what I can say to my boyfriend to make him believe me. I don't know if I can get over the lack of trust he has in me, even after 3 years. I don't know if I should contact his brother entry and make him confess, or if talking to him will make me look more guilty in my boyfriend's eyes. I don't know whether to talk to his parents. I don't know how to approach this at all. Does anyone have any recommendations about how to resolve this?
Tldr: my boyfriend thinks his brother and I slept together, we did not by his brother is acting as if we did, how do I fix this?
Submitted December 27, 2018 at 10:03PM by throwaway12091964 http://bit.ly/2EVH3KO
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