My [25 F] cousin [27 F] constantly cheats on her military boyfriend [28 M] while deployed and it's making me hate her. He proposed.

So cousin and I are both navy spouses/STB spouses. And cousin has been one of my good friends as well, we've always been close. I understand a lot of service members cheat also, and I really don't want this to turn into a "all dependas are cheaters" post but something has been genuinely bothering me. I am also a navy wife, I haven't cheated on my husband but I frequently see other wives cheating and he frequently sees other members cheating and it horrifies us both how normalized it is.

I guess mine and cousins closeness reached a new level that she decided to reveal her behaviour to me while her boyfriend is being deployed.

She cheats on him, constantly. She meets multiple guys on tinder and fucks them then ghosts them, she has cheated on her previous husband with this one specific guy who doesn't actually care about her/just leads her on and is now being a complete idiot with him too behind her boyfriends back and bangs this side guy every couple weeks because he only makes time for her every couple weeks. It's obvious he doesn't care about her but she still goes back to him.

The first time she cheated, I told her to tell her boyfriend or I wouldn't talk to her again. She told him, sent me the screenshots and they broke up for a whopping two days. She promised it wouldn't happen again.

She told me she suspects that navy boyfriend wants to propose. I told her I felt sad for him because she treats him like shit. She told me it was over between her and side guy, but I saw her still talking to him on snapchat. She has him under a different name.

Navy guy got home from his deployment, and proposed yesterday. It's been all over social media, she's going on about how inlove she is and putting on a show. My entire family knows she cheats regularly on him, but doesn't say anything. My own aunt told my cousin "what he doesn't know won't hurt him" She's convinced everyone else that she's been loyal and she's lied to my face saying she's not cheating anymore.

She messaged me asking me to be a bridesmaid and just... I'm not interested. I think she's selfish and cruel and he deserves better. He's working his ass off, sending her money while she's out being disgusting. It makes me not want to be around her and I'm so disappointed in her.

I don't know what to do. I just feel so annoyed and disgusted with her selfishness. He deserves better. I don't really have proof so I don't know how/if to tell him the truth. I'm pretty sure my entire family would shun me if I told him and I don't want the drama but it breaks my heart seeing how inlove he is but she's just taking advantage of him.

TLDR my cousin cheats on her boyfriend in the navy and wants me to be a bridesmaid but I don't support their relationship and think he deserves better.

Update: They plan to suddenly elope within the next few days, they expect me and my husband to be there. Husband doesn't want to go and thinks they're both idiots. I'm stressed AF. My whole family is trying to hastily plan this sham wedding and husband is planning to talk to one of his guys to get them to tell him so it's not linked to us. We don't need the drama. I think she's horrible, yes, but people make a good point also that he's not being the smartest by suddenly proposing despite he's aware of her infidelity. This is all around a sad situation. I'm stressed about being pressured to go by my parents and pressure from my husband to not go.

Submitted December 28, 2018 at 07:57AM by Navywifethrowaway246 http://bit.ly/2SuEBiI