My (18 F) boyfriend (19 M) still has 200+ pictures of his ex on his phone; we’ve been dating for 9+ months now. Every time I think about it, I get upset but am I just overreacting?

Hi! So..

They broke up last November, late December. We started to date in February. She’s made threats to me, she’s attacked him, she called his mom and told her I’m a whore. That’s not even half of what she’s done. And during the beginning of our relationship, I’ve always felt like he wasn’t over her; it made me insecure. So... I really really don’t like her.

It all started months after February when I noticed his Facebook profile picture was still him and his ex. I asked him to change it maybe 2x. He apparently forgot the first time. Then he did.

(Some people may not have a problem with that, some people do. I know for a fact that I do)

Months after that, I noticed he still had other pictures of his ex on his Facebook. I asked him to take it down and at least store them somewhere on his phone; or put the photos on private. He said he would. A month later, we talked about it again. Because he apparently forgot to the first time.

I said, “Can you please take down those pictures? You know how I feel about her.”

He said hesitantly, “I just don’t see the point in why I should take them down”

I said, “The point is my feelings and how I feel about her”

After saying that, he put the photos on private.

I also mentioned that he should at least move the 200+ pictures from his phone to his computer. He said he would, so I completely forgot about it.

A few months later. All of the sudden, I’m feeling a bit insecure again knowing that he probably still has 200+ pictures of her on his phone. I’ve asked him if he’s taken it down and He’s said, “It takes too much time” or says, “Its not that big of a deal”

But after talking it out even more, he said he’ll transfer them into his computer or delete them.

The thing is, I don’t believe he’ll do it. And he’s had those pictures for months now; it’s just I feel like he’s just disregarded my feelings after knowing how insecure I feel about her. He knows these pictures will upset me, but he still has them.

But on the other hand, he’s a forgetful person. Which is true, because he forgets the small things.

Though, why would he forget how I feel? What do I mean to him? Am I just overreacting? I know I’m not the only girlfriend that would be upset by this; I know most girls wouldn’t want their boyfriends with pictures of their ex’s, so I know I’m not crazy. But the fact that they’re still on his phone after 9+ months makes me upset.

I’m thinking about breaking it off because it just clearly shows how he feels about my feels and what I mean to him. But maybe I’m just overreacting?

TLDR: boyfriend has 200+ pics of his ex. He knows I feel insecure about her. Yet he still has those pictures on his phone. Am I overreacting?

EDIT: also to be fair, he dated his ex in highschool for 2 years, so some of them are memories. But then again, ive asked him to simply put them on the computer, and take them them off his phone.

EDIT 2: I forgot to mention he has 4000 pictures in total ( around 3800 are not of his ex) 😬 not sure if that plays a factor in how I’m overreacting. It just shows he doesn’t delete his pictures.

EDIT 3: There’s 2 sides to this comment section. One side says I’m being insecure and over reacting because some people have pictures of their ex. Another side says I’m not overreacting and it’s not normal

Submitted December 03, 2018 at 02:48AM by killeroftherose https://ift.tt/2PfxnN2