Girlfriend (F23) got drunk last night and cancelled her trip to visit me (M21) today and is trying to insist I travel to see her - when I have done all the visiting since Summer and my insurance is up

Hey all,

Will try keep this brief and somewhat vauge for privacy reasons.

So met my girlfriend in the summer, when I moved to a town about 2 hours away. We really hit it off and go on very well so we decided that we would continue seeing each other, even though that it would be long distance.

I am in university and she works full time in hospitality and I sometimes have a tendancy to put other people before myself - as I always try to treat people as I would like to be treated in return.

So, for whatever reason, since September I have always taken it upon myself to go visit her ( I know it was not always the best idea), but she has not been to visit since I returned to university.

I travelled up to see her before Christmas to do Christmas presents etc at a family party that her family were hosting - at which she told me that she did not get me anything, but would give something after Christmas - all good and well.

My parents are away at the moment, so she was going to come down to my town and spend a few days her up to NYE and I had some stuff planned for us to do (again, would love if people did that sort of stuff for me).

We were talking yesterday and she was saying that she would not get a chance to go out untl the New Year - due to work commitments and coming to visit (we said we would go out 1 of the nights here), carried on talking for a while and then she had to go to work so that was that.

I was supposed to be going to a friends get together in their house last night, but due to family turning up unannounced there was a change of plan and spent the night in.

I awoke today to instagram stories of what seemed to be a house party that she ended up going to after work - all good and well.

Was chatting to her when she woke up and said that she went after work, got a lift of someone in work who was drinking, had 2 bottles of wine, ended up vommiting everywhere and spending the night in the girls spare room (no doubts about faithfulness or anything, completely believe that)

She said that she was way too hungover to be able to come down today, and that she had too much to do before NYE so had to cancel the entire trip (the day it was happening) - and saying that I should go up and spend NYE with her, and then we will both drive back down after.

I already had plans for NYE, and I can not even drive up if I wanted to as my insurance is up (broke final year university student) and will not be able to renew it until February which I have explained to her.

I just feel that the cancelling of the trip on the day it was supposed to be is a bit unthoughtful because I did spend time getting things arranged, and she seems to be trying to get annoyed (if that is the right way to phrase it) that I do not want to/ can not travel up to see her when she canceled.

Am I over reacting?

TLDR: GF got wasted and was so hungover cancelled all plans. Should I be annoyed?

Submitted December 27, 2018 at 08:50AM by Redmonkeywall http://bit.ly/2EV4bu7