I'm 28, she is 30. We have been together for 6 years and on and off before then. We have a 5 year old daughter and a house together. About a week ago she went on a buisness trip like she has many times before. When she got back from her trip she told me that one of her co workers had passed out in her hotel room. Now of course I was more than pissed, I was furious. I asked if she did anything with him, she said nothing happened and that she stayed up all night until she left at 5am to come home.
(I have met and hung out with the co-worker many times before and he did know that she was engaged to me. He used to live in the same city as us but got a promotion within the company a few months back and had to move.)
Now as days go by after she told me, I could tell something was bothering her but I did not ask.
3 days after she told me what happened she handed me a letter and told me to read everything. Basicly the letter started out with all the good in our relationship and how long we have been together and how much she loves our family.
As I continue to read she said that she did make out with her co worker and that they layed in same bed together but nothing else happened. She said she regrets everything and that she still wants to spend the rest of her life with me. She blocked his phone number and blocked him on all social media which I did confirm.
I do believe her that she did not do anything else with him besides make out. But it hurts my gut to know that she was making out with another guy while they were laying in bed. I have asked her multiple times if that's all they did was make out. She swears up and down thats all they did. She said that she would quit her job if I wanted her to but her job pays really well for what she does so I'd rather not do that, and I would feel like I'm holding her back from excelling in her career. Plus the guy doesn't live anywhere near us.
I asked her why she felt like she needed to get in the same bed with him and make out with him. She said she doesn't know why and that she's a terrible person and that she's very sorry that she did this to me. She said the reason why he was in her room is because they are talking about work gossip. I also asked her why he stayed in her room. She said that he didn't know the room number to his room. I told her you should have said hey I'm going to bed soon let's call one of the other co-workers who you share the room with and see what room number you're supposed to be in. I asked if she has any feelings for him, she said no it was a stupid mistake.
I still love her and I still want to be with her I just don't know how to cope with these emotions. I don't usually post stuff on these forums but I felt like I had to vent and get this off my chest.
TL;DR: Fiancee made out with co worker on business trip in the same bed, says she didn't do anything else besides that. She regrets everything and shes really sorry. Not sure how to cope with emotions or if I should stay in the relationship.
Submitted December 27, 2018 at 11:44AM by Bismark60 http://bit.ly/2EQFgqo
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