So I've been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks. We've been on 2 dates and have a third lined up. I'm overweight (80kg) but still have a decent figure (smallish waist, big bust, big butt) and I am in the process of losing weight for myself to get back down to my healthy size (63 kg).
This guy is really nice, a great gentleman, cute, we get along, I can tell he is a sensitive and empathetic soul, open-minded and gorgeous inside and out. However tonight he sprung a bombshell on me by sending me this text:
'I wanted to discuss this in person when we next met but as we’re on the topic I want to share my one (and possibly only concern) of compatibility, and that’s the difference in our passion of outdoors activity.
I love hiking and trekking and everything else around it. I used to play football all the time and when my knee got weak I switched to boxing so I can stay at a decent activity level. I adore walking or cycling everywhere I go and it’s just something that makes my soul calm and something I can’t live without.
I want to be able to instill my love of nature and being active to my kids and it would be a struggle for me if my partner didn’t share the same level of enthusiasm.
You mentioned that you were a trainer for 3 years and followed it diligently but it also sounded like you’ve had enough of that life and you weren’t interested in pursuing it any further.
Your profile mentioned that you’re working on your few extra pounds for you and I admire and respect that and will support you anyway I can.
I fully understand that work and life can keep you busy, bring you down, or distract you, but it’s important to me that my partner makes it absolutely paramount that they look after themselves physically and emotionally. A healthy body leads to a healthy mind and vice versa
I’m as susceptible as anyone, more so I’d say to being a couch potato and indulging on chocolates as I do very frequently but I do my best to balance that out whenever I can.
I hope this doesn’t come as an abrupt message and doesn’t betray anything I’ve said until this point as I do believe you are very attractive spiritually, emotionally and physically but it is something I wanted to bring up'
I explained that I love nature and enjoy going out on social walks and hikes and camping etc., but he is unsure if it will be a deal breaker. Should I cut him off now? How would you feel if you received this message?
Tl/dr: guy I've seen only a couple of Tim's is worried we won't work out because he is more outdoorsy than me. What should I do?
EDIT: I came from an abusive relationship where a guy was so obsessed with body image that I ended up getting an eating disorder and body image disorder because I didn't feel attractive if I wasn't 'muscular'. I'm very keen to avoid that situation again as it was the reason I have these issues with my weight.
Submitted December 02, 2018 at 05:15AM by mollie600 https://ift.tt/2AJMuJd
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