My wife(30F), who just about 8 months ago came out to me(34M) as bi, has now told me she is a lesbian. She had become increasingly distant over the last month, and I found out the other night that she has been having an emotional affair with her best friend who is an out lesbian. We have a five year old daughter together and I am so broken right now. I had been supportive of her coming out as bi, and really trying to help her find her identity. Now the rug has been pulled out from under me. She wants to keep up pretenses up until after Christmas so our daughter can have one last normal Christmas, but after that she wants to end the marriage. She says that she can never be the person I need her to be, while I can never be the one she needs, and I get that. I understand she has no control over who she is and her sexual identity, but this is killing me. Every vision I ever had for the future is now gone in the blink of an eye, replaced by nothing but questions and darkness. She has found someone that makes her happy the way I never could, but I am losing the person that makes me happy. I am losing the love of my life, the mother of my daughter, and now I’m going to lose precious time with my daughter. I won’t be able to be there to tuck her in every night, and tell her I love her. I won’t be there to hug her first thing everyday and have all of our silly conversations I love so much. My wife has been a stay at home mom since our daughter was born, so our income is already tight as it is. I’m worried about how to afford a place on my own, as well as how to support my wife and child financially. Neither of us wants to involve the court, and I’m scared they’ll make me pay more than I could afford. I want to do this as civil as possible, work with her, and help as much as I can. I made a vow when we got married to be there for her for the rest of our lives. I intend to keep that vow, even if I can’t be there for her in the way we originally thought. I’m just so lost, scared and hopeless right now. I’m living in a fog, and I don’t know where to turn, don’t know what to do, I’m helpless.
Tl;Dr- my wife came out as lesbian and wants a divorce. We have a five year old daughter together. I’m heartbroken and don’t know what to do.
Submitted November 05, 2021 at 08:48AM by Quirky-Examination-8 https://ift.tt/3bKsI39
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