My (26M) Girlfriend (26F) has guy friend that is in love with her over by himself late at night

I’m a little torn on what to do if anything about my current situation. My girlfriend of a few months has recently told me about a few of her guy friends that she still actively hangs out with have openly told her that they love her. She told me that she does not feel the same way about them.

I had called her to discuss something last night before I went to bed so it was pretty late, and she had said on the phone that she couldn’t talk much longer because she was “busy”. I then heard her yell that she would “be right down!”.

This caught me off guard and I tried to play it cool to find out who was over so late and said something stupid about was she talking to her dog? She said it was her friend Chris, who was one of the guys she had told me was in love with her.

I didn’t ask any more questions and just said okay and goodnight.

Normally I wouldn’t care honestly if it was just a normal guy friend over even that late at night. I don’t consider myself very insecure and I trust my girlfriend,respect her decisions and am confident in the fact that she has chosen me to be her boyfriend when she could've chosen someone else. But, knowing this guy is openly telling her he is in love with her and he's hanging out with her alone past midnight has been keeping me up since I got off the phone.

What I’m planning to do about this situation is three things:

1. Ask her what they were doing when hanging out (she doesn’t even have a TV in her living room, only her bedroom)
2. Ask her to tell me when she has one of those guys over that is in love with her over at her place that late at night alone.
3. Propose the three of us hanging out together so I can get to know him (I’ve never met this guy before).

I don’t believe this is asking too much or would be too controlling, but what do you guys think? It’s something I would be comfortable doing for her if the situation was reversed.

I’m also going to ask her to be honest how she would feel if that scenario played out with her with the roles reversed and have a conversation about that.

I don’t have any plans to tell her to cut contact, she is entitled to her friends and social life that were around before me.

Any other advice on how to handle this situation and future ones?

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TL;DR:

Girlfriend has guy friend that openly says he's in love with her over at her house alone late at night. How to navigate as a boyfriend without being controlling or insecure?

Submitted November 02, 2021 at 08:25AM by throwawayrtt21 https://ift.tt/3EJzvH4