I've been socially awkward my entire life. I have a really hard time making friends, which puts a lot of pressure on the friends I do have. I'd like to get better at navigating social situations.
I really don't think I'm rude, but I'm not sure. People don't hate me or anything, but I rarely seem to be able to make genuine friends at work, school, church, or anywhere. People become familiar and even friendly with me, but then when people are making plans or exchanging contact info or whatever, I'm left out. In a new group of people, it seems like we'll all become friendly, but everyone but me will become real friends who actually spend time together outside of whatever context we met in.
I'm not sure if my social anxiety caused this problem or if this problem is causing me social anxiety. When I meet new people, I clam up and have no idea what to say beyond small talk. When I eventually figure out something to say, I can very often tell by the person's reaction that it wasn't quite right. I'm really not sure what I'm doing wrong though, exactly. I've tried to get better at conversation. I listen, I smile but not too much, I ask questions about the other person while keeping in mind to not get too deep or familiar too quickly. There's just something about me that people don't like.
Tl;dr people don't like me and I want to make more friends, what do I do?
Submitted November 04, 2021 at 06:58AM by Embarrassed125 https://ift.tt/3wfcqZD
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