There are many examples that showcase his neediness. He is a great boyfriend in many ways but this drives me absolutely insane. I give him a thousand kisses during the day. Literally every time I have a break during work (we live together and thanks to the quarantine spend all our time together) . I tell him I love him many times during the day. I'm not exaggerating when I say it's at least 20. I write him little notes. At night, I'm just tired and I want to sleep, so I kiss him good night and I turn away to get some rest. I also take meds that make me extremely drowsy and sometimes have trouble breathing at night so he knows I need my space at night. He complains that I don't cuddle him and that I don't show him love and he needs to "initiate affection" even though I kiss and hug him a billion times during the day. Real number, at least 30.
He went hiking on friday ( we live in a Canadian province where there are remote places you can easily self isolate) and before he left, I wrote him a note. He's away for 3 days but will have wifi. I wrote him a really sweet note and I said that we should probably text less often since this is our alone time and I want him to focus on being there and having a relaxing time in nature and for me to have my time. He reads the note on the way and tells me it's sweet. I text him and say I love him like I've never loved anyone. Then I put my phone away to read. The next day he sends me a few messages. I reply even though we said we wouldn't text. Whatever. He doesn't seem ok so at night I called him for a minute. He complained that he felt "vulnerable and embarrassed and depressed " because I DIDN'T FUCKING TEXT HIM GOOD MORNING AND GOOD NIGHT.
It's 3 days apart after 3 months of spending 24/7 together. I sent him really sweet messages that made us both cry and he still said what he said because he chose to focus on the fact that I didn't say good morning and good night. I lost it and said he is being too needy and there are instances of him doing it before, and that I can't be glued at the hip to him. I said I need space and a day of not talking won't kill us especially since he is back tomorrow. Today is the day that I said I didn't want to text him , but I said we will have a great time when he comes back tomorrow. Oh and btw he said that me not texting him good morning and good night , despite the note and the sweet messages during the day is "ghosting". I can't.
I know it hurt him that I am not talking to him for a day , but did I do the right thing ? How can I deal with this amount of neediness ? Like , he even got offended that I said baby yoda is cuter than him.
Tl;dr :boyfriend is super needy even though I show him tons of affection and write him little notes every day. Got mad cause I didn't say good morning and good night during our only 3 days of alone time in 3 months and I don't know how to deal with this.
Submitted May 24, 2020 at 02:52PM by Wakanda4eva4eva https://ift.tt/2TyKo9t
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