My dad a year and a half in August. I was his only child, it was really hard for me. I had to make all his medical decisions, make the decision to put him in hospice, etc. I will probably grieve for the rest of my life, we were really close and I miss him a lot. His death was pretty traumatic for me and there was a lot of family drama on my dad's side. I am probably still very bitter about his death.
I handle my grief by talking with my very supportive bf about everything, and in my own ways like being with nature and being alone. I wouldn't say I am not close with my family but I just don't want to talk about it with them because they just pity me so much and I hate it. For context, this isn't even his family, it's my mom's side and my parents have been divorced since I was 2.
Today is my dad's birthday. I've asked my family once or twice to not talk to me about my dad specifically on like holidays. I don't want to control conversation but just saying stuff like "I know this is hard, Christmas without your dad, blah blah" or on the anniversary of his death sending me texts about how I'm in their thoughts. I know they do it because they care. I don't know how to give a firm "you guys really need to knock this off, I've asked you multiple times to not do this and I never respond to your texts about it, please take the hint." I remember specifically asking them NOT to talk about my dad on my first Christmas without him and of course it's brought up over dinner and made me feel awful the whole time because it reminded me of how much I miss him. It's not that I don't want to be reminded of him.. I just don't want my family to add to my grieving. I don't know how to explain it but I want them to stop.
TL;DR My family won't stop sending their condolences about my dad who died despite me asking them stop.
Submitted April 30, 2020 at 08:50AM by JennyUE https://ift.tt/3fiTErw
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