I am so disappointed and disgusted.
My sister (29) has been dating a guy (31) on and off for the past year. Not only has he cheated on her numerous times already, she found nudes and sexual conversations with underage girls in his phone. (Basically child porn) He has also been on websites trying to pick up teenagers. In one of his texts to a teenager, he said that his fantasy is to impregante her. When my sister confronted him, he admitted to having sex with a minor and he admitted that he cheated on her again.
They were living together, but only for a few months. Ironically, she works for a three letter state government agency and is paid to protect children. She said she couldn't in good faith NOT report him. She reported him, police officer came to their place and he went to jail. She kicked him out, removed him from the lease, and reported the incident to her employer.
This happened a few months ago. My sister has been taking it hard but we have been in contact and I'm helping her get through the breakup. I talk to her about every week or every other week asking how she is doing. She says she is fine and getting through the breakup.
Today is Christmas and I called my family. They casually said that they met my sister's boyfriend recently. I said .. "uh...when was this?" They replied "Two weeks ago. We also saw him during Thanksgiving break." I told them that I was very surprised. I told them that he cheated on her, and that I do not understand why she would take him back. I didn't dig into details but I left it at that .
I guess he is out of jail now and she has gotten back together with him. And my sister has basically been lying to me this whole time. Every time I tried to check on her and her mental health, she never mentioned getting back with him.
I confronted her. I told her that if he comes anywhere near my cousins or sisters (minors) I will out him to the entire family. I also said that I refuse to allow her to put our family in danger. (We have a big family and a lot of youngsters). Her reply was, "Ok, I won't bring him around any minors."
WTF?! Like it's that simple? Her job is to literally pick up kids from abused homes and to interview people to determine if kids are abused. Her job is to literally go to court and defend/protect children. And here she is dating a convicted sexual predator (that SHE jailed) who has cheated on her multiple times.
I just don't understand it. She is so much better than this. Smart, pretty, talented, and she let's this low life hold her back. I asked her how can she live a life like this, purposefully keeping her man away from minors? I told her that there's no way I could even visit her (when I have kids) because I can't put them in the same space as a predator.
Not only that, he is not smart. He is one of those "fake smart" people. He's vegan and makes stupid claims about how herbs can cure every disease. He also says that people don't need glasses, they just need to "train" their eyes. (Spoiler: he has never had to wear glasses lol.) Again, ironically, my sister and I wear glasses and she has the worse vision out of the family yet she believes this BS. He is definitely the type who is narcissistic and the type to manipulate. In my opinion, she is brainwashed and falling for his spell. I pray this guy doesn't have kids, especially with her. He probably wouldn't get them vaccinated, or go to the doctor. Also if their child has poor vision (definitely will because it runs in the family) will he even allow the child to see an eye doctor? To make things worse, my sister studied to be a nurse and even did a rotational program. I don't understand why she would believe these lies when she is so educated. She was basically the "doctor" of the family.
I haven't had a reason to tell family yet but I casually asked them who all was there when he came by. Only adults apparently. I told my sister I wouldn't tell as long as he isn't around the kids. But should I take it a step further and just tell them anyway? They live 1.5 hours away so I don't think he would come around them. I also don't want to tell her job, just because she did disclose it to them already that he was arrested but I don't know if she told them exactly what for. Plus, I don't want her losing her job and then having to depend on this guy financially. It would back fire.
I tried to talk sense into her. Is there anything else I could do?
Thank you
TDLR: Sister caught her boyfriend cheating on her with minor(s). She reported him, kicked him out and he went to jail. She took him back and I don't know if I should tell my family or not. I also don't know how to convince her to see her worth.
Submitted December 25, 2019 at 05:32PM by djrainbowpixie https://ift.tt/2Zt7rUH
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