My (29/f) boyfriend (33/m) of 3 years and I are fighting over his office's Christmas party. Am I being prude?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We are both managers in different fields, but he manages a group of sales people for his division as well as an office for his territory.

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He was promoted to office manager the first year we dated, and he gets to decide what the office does for a Christmas party every year. The first two Christmas parties for his office were fine. We had a nice dinner his first year as office manager and the second year we went had dinner and went out to have drinks after. The second year was pretty messy, as the people he managed (ages 23-26) were getting trashed. I had to help one of this employee's girlfriends in the bathroom and a few employees blacked out and were escorted out of the bar.

I was sick last year but it sounded like a total shit show, and my boyfriend's supposed behavior kind of grossed me out. They had their usual Christmas dinner at a steakhouse, and then my boyfriend drunkenly suggested going to a strip club. My boyfriend and I go to strip clubs every couple of months so I don't have a problem with strip clubs as a whole, but I do find it wildly inappropriate for a manager to go to a strip club with his employees. I'm sure he embellished on some of the raunchier stories he told, such as his office pulling together enough money to bribe a stripper to blow my boyfriend (which "didn't happen") or doing cocaine with strippers in the champagne room. My boyfriend ended up at one of his employee's homes blacked out and puking in the guest bathroom.

I'm not sure if this is the norm for sales gigs, but if HR caught wind of this at my company I can't imagine I'd still be employed. My boyfriend wants a repeat this year, and I told him that I didn't think it was appropriate and that it could jeopardize his job. He thinks I am being a prude and has reassured me that this is the way it goes in sales. His behavior and attitude towards the entire thing is very off putting to me, and he is upset I don't want to go.

Am I just being a prude?

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tl;dr: Boyfriend manages an office and wants to go to a strip club with his team after Christmas party. I think it's inappropriate. He's mad I don't want to go.

Submitted December 04, 2019 at 07:10PM by nnnnoooonnnnoooo https://ift.tt/2PcfXmt