Alright, this is quite a sticky situation and I could use an unbiased opinion. TL;DR at the bottom
My(28F) SIL (30F) is about to give birth to her first child, a daughter. We are all very excited and can’t wait to meet her. However something has been looming over me since I found out she was having a girl, being that her husband comes from a family of multiple pedophiles. And his family protects the pedophiles instead of casting them out.
The reason I know this and SIL doesn’t is completely accidental. My close coworker saw me scrolling through the book of faces and noticed my SIL’s last name. It’s not a common name. My coworker had me pull up SIL’s profile and her face went white. My coworker then explained that her ex husband is cousins with SIL’s husband. Furthermore, her ex is her ex because he was convicted of child porn and sending lewd texts to underaged girls. He has been in and out of prison for 7+ years. Her ex’s father and uncle were also convicted pedophiles. I saw the court documents showing how the uncle had called a 12 year old girl and masturbated while on the phone with her. It was the 80s so he did not get in nearly enough trouble as he should have. I am not certain what the father has done. My coworker went on to tell me she knows all of the family members very well and SIL’s husband has even played with coworker’s daughter when she was young. Of course my coworker has no contact with them now after everything she discovered. She also has a restraining order against her ex.
I am in no way accusing my SIL’s husband of being a pedophile, my issue is that he is very close with his family and has even hung out with his cousin (my coworkers ex) between prison stays. So it leads me to believe he accepts their behavior. My SIL knows none of this. When I first found out I told my SO who told my MIL and she made the family decision to not tell SIL. The whole family knows except for SIL. And that was that until she announced she was having a baby girl.
With SIL due to give birth any day now I am incredibly concerned about this situation. She may leave her daughter with her husbands family unattended and something may happen. She isn’t particularly fond of her in-laws but having kids kinda forces you to see them more regularly. I would hate myself if something happening to her daughter because she wasn’t aware of the danger she was putting her daughter in by being around these people. But I also feel like it may be out of my hands as my MIL is aware and clearly wants to keep this info from SIL. Her reasoning is that SIL will fly off the handle and be upset with us. I disagree and think that this child’s safety is the most important thing and if it was my daughter I would definitely want to know. So I’m considering talking to SIL privately and telling her to never ever under and circumstances leave her child with the in-laws unattended.
Me and SIL aren’t particularly close but we’ve become closer since she got pregnant so I feel she would not fly off the handle with me if I told her. We have knows each other for 3 years. However this would definitely create strife not only in her marriage but possibly between myself and MIL. So I’m not sure what to do. I’ve considered talking to MIL again but she will not always be around the baby to keep an eye out especially if SIL is at the in-laws. I could use some direction/advice Reddit.
TL;DR my future SIL’s husband comes from a family of pedophiles. SIL doesn’t know this. SIL is about to give birth to a baby girl, should I tell her to be extremely cautious about letting her daughter spend time with husbands family?
Submitted November 14, 2019 at 05:56PM by bskies-297 https://ift.tt/351f0nc
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