My(21) boyfriend (20) of 3 years and I planned a year off of university together to travel. Realistically we didn’t know how long we would be able to make money stretch but we wanted to try for as long as possible and have this experience together. Or so I thought.
We spent a month in a different country together and recently returned to our home country, but to a much different region than where we are from, in order to get jobs to make money and live in a beautiful place for a few months. Then we were supposed to go to some more countries together. We were planning that for weeks. The second day we got here and had started looking at options for cheap cars to buy, he bailed on everything.
He decided he no longer wanted to go travel more in the next few months because of money. Really fucking sucks he’s flaking but okay I guess. I can understand money concerns. I can empathize with that. We could just live in the new place and work and be together. But that wasn’t the kicker. He then apparently decided that he was going to move somewhere by himself to try to have that experience by himself and that he needed it and I couldn’t come. He won’t give me a time estimate for how long he will be doing this for, he won’t wait until I go back to university after this year to go do it and have us do long distance then. He says he will only wait until January. He will live with me for the next few months and then go. He doesn’t want to break up he just wants to do long distance. For no reason other than a fucking soul search. During the time that was supposed to be for us.
I’m heartbroken. And livid. He is abandoning me. I worked so hard for this experience and was absolutely excited, over the moon to spend around a year with him just doing our thing together. He led me to believe the same thing. And apparently that doesn’t matter to him.
I’m thinking this calls for me ending things. I think he is selfish and cold and cruel. That what he is doing doesn’t make me feel loved. Advice would be greatly appreciated. I’m so lost right now, far away from home in a place I love but am not set up in, wondering how the hell my relationship got here in 24 hours.
TL;DR: Boyfriend of 3 years and I took time off of university to travel and live life together. He has decided in the middle of this situation that he no longer wants to visit anymore countries and that he also needs to go live somewhere by himself for an undetermined amount of time to learn about himself and that I can’t come. But he doesn’t want to break up.
Submitted November 05, 2019 at 02:46AM by ijustdontcare666 https://ift.tt/33jASd7
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