My boyfriend [33M] carelessly destroyed something of mine[30F] and I’m so angry and gutted and I don’t know how to handle it.

My boyfriend of three years destroyed my harvest from a rare plant this morning and I don’t know what to do. I am so angry at his absent mindedness and thoughtless behavior towards my belongings and lack of a real apology.

On Saturday when I collected the fruit I showed him when I harvested it and told him I planned on planting them. I also took a healthy clipping to try to help perpetuate it.

The plant in question is hard to find and currently isn’t doing well due to a pest problem I was treating it for when I picked the fruit. It may makes seeds again but it may not.

I left the seeds out to dry and was going to plant some this week after I removed the rest of the fruit flesh and counted them.

When I came into the kitchen after getting ready I saw the fruit exterior in the trash along with the clipping and the plate the seeds had been on was in the sink and had been washed.

I yelled at him what he thought he was doing and he just replied ˋI thought it was trash...´

I told him that I had told him it was there to be dried and saved and he denied knowing and said ˋIt just looked like a messˋ.

I asked why he didn’t ask me and he didn’t have an answer.

While standing there I started crying and asked him to leave me alone as he pointed out a few seeds still stuck to the plate that had been sitting in hot soapy water and said it was okay because there were still some left and I just cried harder.

I don’t know how to grow up and stop being upset about something I was looking forward to when it was his carelessness that caused it and there’s no fixing it.

He touches my things and moves them a lot and has broken things before and his apologies and follow through on repairing stuff he’s broken suck. I want him to apologize because he did a bad thing not because he got caught not listening.

It’s always someone else’s fault to him, either something I shouldn’t have left out that he broke or I didn’t reiterate instructions several times is the reason it happened, not the part where he actually broke something or ruined my plant harvest.

Im just so angry can you please give me resources on working through these sorts of fights?

Tl;dr Boyfriend ruined my plant, I’m heartbroken at his thoughtlessness. Need help working through my hurt feelings, idk wtf to do with him about being stupid and not listening or asking permission about things.

Submitted November 04, 2019 at 01:34PM by Sondalsta https://ift.tt/2JPl1ey