My [35F] husband [38M] is . . . obsessively buying groceries??

In the last couple of months, my husband has started buying groceries excessively. I know, odd first world complaint. But he has probably spent $1000 on mostly just junk food, odds and ends, new products, snack food, ice cream, etc. We have a small kitchen and small pantry, so I've started trying to organize this stuff on the counters, which is a pain. He goes to the grocery store almost daily, even without a set reason, and comes home with all kinds of stuff.

He is very thin, our kids are thin, and I'm on the chubby side of normal BMI. So we don't eat a ton of extra food, and the perishable stuff often isn't eaten before it goes bad. I've made jams out of a lot of the fruit and frozen the excess baked goods when there's room, but not everything gets used. And he takes this as a personal insult. Huffy, angry, acting unappreciated. If he comes across a non-perishable that hasn't been eaten, he still gets upset that nobody's had it yet. I've told him many times "Look, honey, we like all these things, but we just can't actually eat all this food that fast. You have to stop bringing home more groceries." This just makes him more upset and he continues bringing home even more things. Even the older two kids have noticed and mentioned there's no more room for food and "Dad really needs to quit buying this stuff."

I know there are some mental health issues at play, extreme stress and a trauma last year. But he won't seek help for that, so I'm currently stuck, buried under endless groceries. I don't foresee any actual change happening; I don't know the motivation, and I hate food waste.

Should I keep telling him we can't eat more and to just stop it? Should I just start taking the excess to the food bank? Should I try to make lists of food we actually need to satisfy the urge? Are the latter two enabling?

Tl;dr: husband is obsessively buying groceries we can't eat fast enough or have room for - do I keep confronting him, or just start donating it?

Submitted August 25, 2019 at 05:52PM by 73746382915 https://ift.tt/2ZpLcgP