We've been together for 3 years. He's a big extrovert, and I'm introvert.
Every weekend, since the beginning of our relationship, has been spent in his family, 1 hour away from where we live. Every weekend is a big meeting with his friend and his family. I love them and we get along very well, but it drains my energy. When I say I don't want to come, but he tells me that's important for me to socialise, that couple needs to have a social life and yeah I probably agree, but I'm not happy with this. I'd rather stay at home with him and just be the both of us. He says that if I want to stay home, we need to go somewhere, do some kind of stimulating activity.
Plus, he's complaining about activity I don't want to do, like party, bar, ... Crowded places makes me want to crawl into my bed. And he barely never propose calm activities with only us.
I understand his point, he needs this, but I feel this kind of relationship is superficial and I'm tired of not be able to be myself and have the relationship I need. I guess I could make an effort to socialise more, but it doesn't feel fair to me.
I don't know if it's important, but I don't spend time with my own family. I don't get along with my mum and my sister is in another country. I don't have friends neither, I'm ok with that.
Lately, I had enough of it and refuse multiple times to come, and he made me feel guilty about it. He says that I'm not able to be a social creature and well, that's true, but I know it's something he doesn't like about me.
We talked about it, few months ago, he told me that he will compromise and make 1 weekend with me, 1 with them alone, and 1 both of us there. It never happened.
He's alone there this week. Yesterday, his mom call me. She says she talked to my BF's best friend. Apparently my BF complaint that I do not make enough effort, and she says that maybe I can come and surprise him. I obviously didn't and I did not talk to my BF since. I feel betrayed.
How should I handle this?
TL;DR my boyfriend wants me to have all my weekends with his family and don't want te compromise about it.
Submitted August 23, 2019 at 12:44AM by ninalye https://ift.tt/320gfl3
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