I (25 F) got drunk at my fiancés (28 M) work function. Im worried he is reconsidering the relationship.

Basically title says it all. Three months ago fiancé started a new job in auditing at an accounting firm and last week he invited me out to work drinks so I could meet everyone.

Fiancé had to leave early because he needed to catch a flight to a conference for the weekend, but he said I could stay at the drinks after he left if I wanted. I was getting along with everyone so I decided to stay.

Everyone was so lovely to me, and after he left they were all shouting me drinks on the company tab and I lost track of what I was drinking. I ended up vomiting twice in the bathrooms. I’m pretty sure no one else knows I vomited and after I vomited I stopped drinking and only had soft drink for the rest of the night.

I left around 1am I left and texted fiancé from my taxi that I had a good night and everyone was lovely but that I had drunk a little too much but that I was all right. He called me straight away and said that he felt disrespected that I had got that drunk at his work drinks as he was a new employee and was worried about settling in. He asked why I didn’t leave as soon as I vomited the first time but I was having so much fun and felt like I was building connections with his colleagues and it’s not like anyone saw me vomit. Plus, everyone else was drunk too so I don’t think it was really that bad.

Since this happened he has been acting a bit distant and he said he felt really hurt and needs time to calm down and he said he wants a bit more space for a week to clear his mind (we live together so he has been going on walks and visiting friends). He said that I was welcome to get drunk with my friends and work colleagues, but that it was disrespectful to do it at his work function when I was meeting everyone and his bosses are there. I think that would be fair except that his bosses were drinking too and everyone was getting drunk not just me. I’m upset that he has reacted like this and I think it’s a bit of an overreaction as I didn’t actually cause any damage (apparently his colleagues liked me). I’m worried he is reconsidering the relationship over something so minor. He hasn’t said directly that he’s reconsidering the relationship but it has been a whole week now and he still doesn’t seem himself.

TLDR: I got drunk and vomited at fiancés work function and he is giving me a hard time over it. I’m worried he is reconsidering the relationship.

Edit: Okay, having read all the comments I can understand that I was in the wrong here. I’m thinking I could do this: 1) apologise and offer to not drink at his work events again 2) take him out to a restaurant that he likes as a way of saying sorry, I’m feeling pretty bad about this now and I really don’t want him to leave me over it or change our relationship. He is a really good boyfriend and I don’t want to lose him over something like this :(

Submitted August 24, 2019 at 04:57PM by drunkworkdrinks https://ift.tt/33W7R83