They (mom, older sister, and older brother) only call or message me whenever they're in need and would ask for money, 50 here, 1000-2000 there, multiple times over the last few years. I have a soft spot for them and would rarely say no. Recently my brother got into legal troubles and I ended up using a good amount of my emergency fund to cover the lawyer fees, storage fees to move his stuff out of his house, and my sister's tax debt. I couldn't say no because I don't want him to end up in prison. My mom expected me to have $$$ money ready, to post his bail, which I don't. I don't "lend" them it, because I don't expect it back. But looking back, no one ever asked how I was doing, what was going on in my life, just a "hey we are in trouble, can you help us out? Thanks, I'll pay you back". They never pay me back. They know how much I make (which is a lot compared to them) and probably use it to justify it. But I have financial goals and I can't be their emergency fund. I really want to cut them off but I can't seem to do it. What if they're in big trouble and need my help? Just looking for advice and wondering if people have been in a similar situation.
Edit: Thanks everyone. I guess I just needed to hear that it's okay to say "no" and offer support in different ways.
TL;DR: My family treats me as their emergency fund. I don't want to be ruthless and cut them off / go no contact because what if they're in dire need? Need advice.
Submitted March 02, 2019 at 08:20AM by katepham27 https://ift.tt/2Hbr6kW
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