We have two children, daughter who will be two in January and a 3 month old boy. We’ve been together for 6 years.
He works a lot so I really don’t mind doing most things around the house and our children. He has two main things he has kind of picked himself, which is the trash, and the cleaning up of the kitchen most of the time. He does this when I’m bathing/getting the children ready for bed if he’s home. If he’s not home, I do it.
As I’ve stated, I do not mind doing mostly everything but i would like some help. It’s full on with two children under two. I do the dinner, the house work, getting the kids sorted.
But the issue is he won’t just do things himself. I have to ask him to do baby’s nappy if I’m busy doing something else. He won’t just do it. (I ask when he’s home as he works a lot, 12 hour shifts but does have a few days of in between) I have to ask if he can make daughter something to eat if I’m too busy breastfeeding baby and can’t do it myself. He won’t just think, oh it’s lunch time, she’s gonna be hungry.
It’s getting to the point that I need to ask him to do pretty much anything.
I have spoken to him about it but he says it’s not true and he does do things he needs to do. I don’t know if he has depression, because he does show signs of it sometimes but he says he feels fine. To be honest I just think it’s a case of he works, he thinks he should chill out for the days he is off work. Which is fine but not all the time and not every single hour of the day.
Any advice to try and get him to do more without me “nagging” at him. I hate asking him to do stuff as I feel like I’m going on at him but I need some help. There’s so much I need to do in the day, when he’s off work I would like some more help. I’ve told him and we have had conversations but I don’t really know what to do next.
Another issue is he doesn’t spend too much time with the children. He’d rather just be doing something else. I’m either holding the baby or he’s on his chair. My partner will hold him if I ASK him too. Which I don’t think is right. I do think he’s suffering with something but I can’t force him to get help.
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Submitted December 02, 2018 at 02:01AM by ornotreally https://ift.tt/2Sn8bG9
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