Friend (f/21) keeps going back to toxic boyfriend and I honestly don’t want to hear about it anymore.

One of my best friends starting dating this guy like two summers ago and since then they have been on and off constantly. He has a history of drug abuse, is practically an alcoholic, manipulative, toxic, and violent. Luckily he goes to a college from her home state so I don’t have to interact with him that much but literally my first interaction with him was coming into her room when he was visiting to stop him from having sex with her when she was nearly passed out drunk.

Whenever they do breakup it’s MESSY AF and she will talk about it for months. I always support her and listen to her because I love her and I just want her to be happy, healthy and SAFE. But honestly after two years of this it’s really starting to take a toll on my already deteriorating mental health.

About a week ago she was home and called me crying about how he was being physically abusive and the police got involved. It’s was like 1am when she called and she was very drunk so she had no way of leaving his house and I was five hours away so I couldn’t come get her. After trying to get her to call her friend to see if she can come get her she hung up saying she’d call her. For the next like 2 hours my friend was radio silent and not picking up her phone which made me extremely concerned. She ended up being driven home by the police but I stayed up all night concerned as hell. Literally two or three days later she posted a pic of him and her out to dinner.

I’ve tried so many times to tell her he is abusive and she should not be with him. When they are broken up she agrees but when they’re together she goes on about how he’s changed and doesn’t drink as much anymore. I’ve given up on trying to convince her to leave him and instead just sit there and listen. He ALWAYS ends up doing something shitty to her and I’m left to pick up the pieces but at this point not only do I not know what to say anymore but I frankly don’t want to hear it. Honestly I’m so tired of that shit and feel as if she’s doing it to herself which is harsh I know. I don’t know if I should tell her I don’t want her talk about him to me anymore. I really don’t know what to do.

TLDR: Long story short, her boyfriend is shitty and abusive and im tired of hearing about it when she could literally break up and block him from everything. Is it fair for me to not want to even hear about the shitty things he does to her? Like am I being a bad friend and selfish?

Submitted November 06, 2021 at 08:23PM by yleentuocs https://ift.tt/3CS70Go