Boyfriend (M27) changed his attitude towards getting engaged to me (F25) after we purchased a home together

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We have discussed what each of us wants in life, and roughly when, numerous times. We both want to be married in the next few years. I believe that our relationship is healthy and that normally our communication is really good.

My boyfriend did not want to be engaged or live together prior to buying a home together. He has expressed his desire to "jump in with both feet" by purchasing a home and getting engaged at about the same time.

I, on the other hand, was a bit nervous to purchase a home with someone that I am not at least engaged to, and I expressed this on a few occasions.

He told me that he sees both major events (home purchase and engagement) happening at about the same time and hinted in many other ways that we would get engaged shortly after we buy a home.

We purchased a home a few months ago and have been enjoying living together. I have been anticipating a ring sometime soon-ish as this is what we discussed many times. Although now when I bring up the topic of getting engaged he does not have it on his priority list. At first he said we need to save a bit more money, which I was okay with.

The thing is, he keeps talking about all these other purchases (non-urgent) that he wants to complete and has made it clear that they take priority to a ring.

I feel hurt and lied to. We discussed this to ensure that we were on the same page and now I don't know where he stands on this. He doesn't like talking about it and gets flustered when I try to talk about it. I don't want to force him into something if he isn't ready, but I'm also hurt and shocked by his sudden change in behavior.

What do I do? Should I discuss this hurt at therapy by myself? Should I try to work through it with him? If so, how? I do not want to force him to get engaged if he doesn't want to be engaged. I'm feeling stuck and I'd like some kind suggestions

TLDR; Boyfriend said we'd get engaged shortly after purchasing a home together, now that we've bought a home and settled in, he doesn't see this as a priority and I do

Edit: I do not believe that he has done this for financial gain. The house is owned 50/50 and a breakdown in the relationship would significantly harm his financial situation. This is not a factor

Submitted November 03, 2021 at 07:45PM by 4038675309 https://ift.tt/3BJneAg