My (21M) GF (21F) stroked our mutual friend's (M21) penis for educational purposes and I can't get over it

So me and my GF share a mutual best friend (21). They both have known each other longer than I have (6 months). They are very good and close friends and I came into the group and started dating her 1 year ago. I can assure you that there was nothing there between my GF and our male best friend (he is obese and just not my GF's type).

My GF is not the best in bed and gives terrible handjobs, so one day while they were watching Netflix, they got on the topic of sex and my male best friend offered her to show her how to give a proper handjob. Without thinking my GF said OK and proceeded to stroke his penis for " practice" but not to climax.

After that, to their defense she came and let me know that she has 'practiced' and they both were surprised when i lost my shit. It's been a few months now but I just can't get over it. The audacity of them both to just assume I'd be ok with it. I understand we are all different people with different beliefs, opinions and culture, but in my books I classify this as cheating (intentional or not).

GF claims it wasn't cheating cause there was no intention behind it and the male best friend's defense was "in a really sick way I was trying to help you out". I countered with asking my GF how she would feel if I went ahead and fingered another girl for practice, and then she broke down. She still doesn't understand that it's cheating.

how do I get over this? I don't usually judge because the past is the past but i am her first BF and my GF had quite a promiscuous past (high body count, never used condoms, giving random dudes blowjobs in public) and is on anti depressants as well and I just can't seem to trust her or her character anymore.

TLDR: Gf gave our male best friend a handjob without climax for educational purposes and they both don't see it as cheating. So me and my GF share a mutual best friend (21). They both have known each other longer than I have (6 months). They are very good and close friends and I came into the group and started dating her a while ago. I can assure you that there was nothing there between my GF and our male best friend (he is obese and just not my GF's type).

My GF is not the best in bed and gives terrible handjobs, so one day while they were watching Netflix, they got on the topic of sex and my male best friend offered her to show her how to give a proper handjob. Without thinking my GF said OK and proceeded to stroke his penis for " practice" but not to climax.

After that, to their defense she came and let me know that she has 'practiced' and they both were surprised when i lost my shit. It's been a few months now but I just can't get over it. The audacity of them both to just assume I'd be ok with it. I understand we are all different people with different beliefs, opinions and culture, but in my books I classify this as cheating (intentional or not).

GF claims it wasn't cheating cause there was no intention behind it and the male best friend's defense was "in a really sick way I was trying to help you out". I countered with asking my GF how she would feel if I went ahead and fingered another girl for practice, and then she broke down. She still doesn't understand that it's cheating.

how do I get over this? I don't usually judge because the past is the past but i am her first BF and my GF had quite a promiscuous past (high body count, never used condoms, giving random dudes blowjobs in public) and is on anti depressants as well and I just can't seem to trust her or her character anymore.

TL;DR: Gf gave our male best friend a handjob without climax for educational purposes and they both don't see it as cheating.

Submitted June 04, 2021 at 01:36AM by taggwp1999 https://ift.tt/3uRpdiw