Moved into my girlfriend’s condo, and I don’t feel at home.

Hey everyone,

So for two and a half years I (32m) have been with my girlfriend (33f). I work an overseas job which keeps me away from home a lot, and because of that I moved back in with my folks a year before meeting her. We ended up living with hers for a while until her condo was built which she had purchased before meeting me.

Now fast forward a couple years and we finally moved in. The thing is, I didn’t own any furniture before, my previous girlfriend I lived together in a furnished place. To be honest, I never really owned much apart from the childhood crap that’s at my parents. Call it immature sure, but I’ve been living all over the world for work for the past 6 years and didn’t see the need.

Now that we’re living together, with her furniture, her choice of decor (which I am completely useless at) which is Pinterest-like perfection. I for some reason feel alone. Like I’m not home.

We have pictures of us all over the condo. But nothing that really stands out that shows that I live there. Every time I’ve suggested something she counters it with a different colour or shape because obviously she doesn’t like my idea. She says it’s “choosing together”.

I understand it’s her first purchase and I’m lucky to live with her in such a nice place.

I have no decorating skills, nor do I really care that much. Or do I?

It’s a 700 square foot one bedroom condo, so no space really for either of us to be alone really at any time. And now due to the pandemic, she installed her office in the living room so now even me sitting watching tv is almost out of the question. We have spoken about buying a larger place eventually but I’m afraid I’ll never have a space to myself. I want her to have an office and gym. And I would like a quiet spot to just get away sometimes. Is this too much to ask?

Am I completely overreacting? Or is it normal for the ladies to always pick what goes into a “home”?

Thanks

TL;DR

Girlfriend owns the home we live in and I don’t feel like anything represents me in our place.

Submitted June 03, 2021 at 06:38AM by Userofthecentury https://ift.tt/3vPodNg