I (34M) left my wife (35F) for another woman (28F). I recently discovered she has a history of affairs with married men and I'm now very confused.

My wife (35F) and I (34M) were married for 12 years. A few years into our marriage she cheated on me with one of my friends and I was heartbroken. We stayed together but it was never really the same afterwards.

In 2019, a woman (28F) started at my work and we became close. I'll call her Jennie for the purposes of this story. As Jennie and I got to know each other better we began talking about our past and current relationships. I told her about what happened to me and how unhappy I was. She told me about that she hadn't had a relationship for a number of years. Eventually we started a relationship while I was still married, albeit leading a very separate life from my wife.

At the beginning of this year I left my wife for Jennie.

Things have been going relatively well with Jennie, but I have severe trust issues (yes, I appreciate this is ironic) and she can be quite secretive, which causes friction.

Recently I discovered that I was not the first married man Jennie has had an affair with. Immediately before meeting me, she had been having an affair with a married coworker and I understand it ended when his wife became pregnant. I'm also aware of at least a couple of other occasions where she's acted inappropriately with someone in a long term relationship.

Upon finding out about her previous relationship with another married man, I was very upset. Mostly because she kept it from me and I felt like I'd been deceived. When I confronted her about it she said it wasn't true, I was "really paranoid" (which may be true sometimes) and "make things out of nothing". When I presented her with evidence, she quickly admitted it and said she shouldn't have lied to me. I also have this underlying feeling that this might all be some sort of game to her. But she says her past has no bearing on the future and I have nothing to worry about.

I love Jennie deeply, but I'm now wondering if this is the right relationship for me.

I would love people's opinions on this situation as I'm aware my own views are clouded at the moment.

TL;DR: I left my wife for another woman. I recently discovered the woman I left my wife for has a history of affairs with married men.

Submitted June 03, 2021 at 02:36AM by throwaway210603 https://ift.tt/34Y7Dz7