BF (29m) spends a lot of time on video games; inappropriate roleplay; makes me (22f) feel bad for asking to spend time with him

Three years ago my bf wanted to follow his dreams of gaming/streaming which I supported but now I feel like the relationship/game balance is not reaching my expectations. When I ask him to hang out with me, I end up feeling bad because I feel like I am ruining his “me” time by relaxing and playing video games. He makes it clear that he would rather be gaming. I even bought my own gaming PC to play with him, but I’m so busy with school and work I haven’t had that kind of time. To put the cherry on top, lately he started playing a role play where he has clearly been talking to other women in an inappropriate flirting type of way. They spend hours in this game partying and dancing basically naked, where for example I heard them say “look at all these women on you” where he responded “I’m mentally taking photographs of this moment” or saying “I’ve got nothing but compliments for you ladies” I know it’s not real life, but it’s real people behind the character. I’ve told him my concerns and his reasons are it’s all for his character status in the game and it’s not him. Also, when he first got this game I would sit with him to hang out and watch him play. Then all of a sudden it was “too stressful” for me to sit next to him while he was playing. He wouldn’t give me a reason at first why it stressed him out and then finally said it’s because there is other women in the game and he thought I would be upset about it. Which makes me more upset about it! Am I being insecure? Is it okay for a S/O to role play these type of scenes because it’s not in real life? Am I being crazy?

TL;DR Bf spends to much time on video games, doesn’t spend time with me, and has been inappropriately role playing games. Am I crazy for being upset?

EDIT: Wow thank you everyone for your comments!! To clarify further, we have been fighting about this all week, he will not see my side and admit that anything he did was inappropriate because it was his “character” not him. Although in the game after complementing one of the females he goes “hey I’m just being myself” I just can’t get over this and it’s killing me the way he treats people on the internet better than our relationship but he doesn’t see it! Becoming a full time time streamer has been his dream and I realize I probably enabled this behavior by not putting my foot down sooner, but I was trying to be supportive. I never got that mad he was on the game so much, I would wait on him hand and foot by bringing him coffee and food while playing his games, heck I even bought him the game he is playing now because I thought it would be used differently and we would enjoy it together! And we were! Until the day he started talking to these women on the game. Anyways he says playing the game (which is GTA online roleplay) and putting in the hours and role playing the way he is will help him on the server and build his stream. Therefore I am ruining it for him by making it a big deal. Maybe I would not be so upset if he did make time for us to do something once in a while but he doesn’t. When we do hang out, I can tell he resents me for taking his time away. We live like roommates. We rarely have sex, and if I initiate he turns me down which has made me question if there is something wrong with me. He does pay a couple of the bills (internet and electricity) and does some chores when he feels like it. & yes, I do own the house, I was my raised by my great grandmother who got diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and went into the nursing home when I was also 18 and found out she put my name on the house, I am very lucky to be able to take care of the home.

Submitted June 03, 2021 at 11:46AM by PaleontologistSea484 https://ift.tt/3w4JHWJ