I'm 15 weeks pregnant with our first bio child.
My husband has a kid from a previous relationship that he raised from a young age (not bio, I only specify this because it is relevant that we have no control over his interactions). This kid interacts with several kids daily (20+) at a skate park and his mom doesn't care at all and doesn't think covid is a risk so she continues to let him interact and play with whoever whenever he wants.
My husband also doesn't seem to believe covid is real or a risk and only wears a mask indoors because he has to.
I have been told by my OB that I am high risk due to the fact that I'm pregnant, asthmatic, and on blood thinners my entire pregnancy. These things make me at high risk and she advised me to be 'extremely careful' in my interactions with my husband's kid. She told me that all interactions should be outdoors and with me wearing a mask, and my husband's interactions should be the same. My husband made a huge stink about meeting up with Alex (fake name) outside of our place, we do not have any space in here to socially distance since it's a small apartment. So his meetups have been at family member's houses, his mom's house, etc.
My husband doesn't support me though, and is likely telling his family what he tells me which is I'm "crazy" and "neurotic" and "exaggerating it" and tonight he even said "you're not high risk unless you catch it, and you aren't likely to catch it, and if you do catch it you can't blame me or Alex". I of course told him I'm high risk which is why I need to AVOID catching it, but at this point, it's just a useless argument.
His family doesn't believe in it really either, they are all fine interacting with whoever not wearing a mask or being careful. His brother even has two young kids, one newborn and literally does not care at all about it. He lets Alex hold the newborn knowing he is out socializing constantly all day everyday. So to his family, I'm the crazy one.
I am tired of the daily stress this causes, I'm tired of my husband not giving a shit and not wearing a mask in any interactions, not coming home and showering or changing or doing any of that which seems reasonable enough to me. I'm tired of the whole situation.
He is disrespecting me whenever I express concern and said "oh you believe your OB like she's God" and even told me to shut the fuck up tonight and that I'm going to harm our baby with my stress that I "create myself". Couldn't possibly be him stressing me out right? He says it's all in my head and I'm crazy pretty much.
He essentially doesn't believe covid exists, thinks this is all a joke and I really feel he doesn't prioritize my health or the health and safety of our baby.
My entire pregnancy has been stress and fighting with him. All of our fights center around the constant drama created by his ex (Alex's mom), and his unwillingness to have boundaries out of fear she will take Alex out of his life. The reality is Alex is 13 and has more of a say now so to me this doesn't seem realistic.
So now I'm sitting here feeling extremely sick, wondering if the baby is okay, and wondering why I'm actually married to this man who disrespects me and doesn't seem to care at all about my health.
tl;dr: My husband doesn't seem to care at all about my health or safety and I'm wondering what I should do about it.
Submitted August 25, 2020 at 09:25PM by wtfisactuallyup https://ift.tt/3jh2LKl
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