My(27f) bf (27m)(3mo) said I'm trying to control what he can joke about because I told him to not joke about us having anal sex

I dont like anal sex and I've said this multiple times. He jokes about it but in a specific way. If the topic comes up from an outside source or he brings it up, he jokes about us doing anal and I shut it down but he persists.
I dont know how to describe it. It's not like, joking about anal sex in general. I'm talking about when he talks about US having anal. And itll be like, he jokes about fucking me anally and I'll say something like. "No, not in my butt" and hell be like "yes, you like it" in a not serious tone but every time I say no, he just repeats himself. Or like, "no I dont want to" and hell be like "oh you want to?" Rinse and repeat.

I know a joke is a joke but I feel like if someone asks you not to talk about doing a certain thing with them sexually, that should be the end of it. Not long ago he got upset and said I was trying to control what he joked about. I just said didnt like when he joked about anal, again. He said I didnt answer his question and I dont remember what I said but all he said was "interesting" and things got quiet.

I thought he got passed it but later he left for work and I stepped up to hug him and have a good day and he just said "mhhhm" and turned away before i could even get close enough to hug him. I couldnt tell if the tone and reply was solely in response to "have a good day" or not and I didnt feel like arguing so I just went away.

I'm not trying to control what he jokes about. Or at least that's not my intention. I just dont like it when he jokes about us doing that when I've said multiple times that I dont like it. It feels like he's trying to wear me down to saying yes.

But maybe I'm being too serious? He seemed really bothered so maybe I'm the sensitive one?? He brings it up a lot and I'm sick of deflecting it. It doesn't feel that good and it exacerbates my hemorrhoids.

TL:DR My bf passive aggressively hints at wanting anal/pressures me through "joking" and said I was trying to control what he jokes about when I said to not joke about us and anal. But i feel like no matter what, even if i say i dint about anything else he jokes about so long as he keeps us+anal off of the table, he'll still say I'm trying to control him.

Submitted May 25, 2020 at 04:15PM by Noansikt https://ift.tt/3emUhPx