My husband (33M) and I (31F) are currently expecting our first child and I fear the worst for our relationship.

I (31F) have been with husband (33M) for over 15 years. I am currently 15 weeks pregnant for our first child. I never thought I could get pregnant. Even though it was a major unexpected surprise and it freaked me out a bit, my husband was excited and so was I. We have always had a very healthy active sex life. My sex drive suddenly dropped and not long after I found out I was pregnant. My husband seemed to be very understanding in the beginning seeing how exhausted and sleepy I had become. As my pregnancy progressed my libido did not return even remotely to what it once had been. I accredited this to changing hormones and I know this is a common and normal thing that happens. Sex just wasn't as appealing. It even feels different and less pleasurable than before. My husband began to feel like I had cut him off and I was being inconsiderate of him because his desire hadn't changed. During a heated discussion/argument I tried to explain how my hormones made me feel, how easily I tired, and how uncomfortable many positions had now become (especially on the couch which seems to be his favorite spot). But, I still love him dearly and want to make him happy. If sex was going to help our relationship then I was going to try. Today I snuggled up on the couch with him and started to tease and touch him. He always loved my blowies so I knew that would make him happy. After a few minutes he asked if we could have sex. I gladly hopped on top. It felt great! I'm just not used to lifting the extra 15lbs of my body weight and my legs got weak from bouncing. He suggested to spoon (my least favorite position bc I feel like I can't get all of him, but his favorite bc of comfort) but I was going for his pleasure so I got into position. After just a few minutes he rolled back and gave up. When I asked what was wrong he said I had fucked with him for 2 months and now he could not get into it. I was incredibly hurt and my high emotions sent me into the bedroom ugly crying and sobbing. We have yet to speak to each other since. I feel like this should be a time of happiness and bonding for us but its been nothing but arguing and anxiety. I just want my best friend back, to feel comforted in his arms, and bond over our baby. It may sound like a fantasy, but I never expected it to be this stressful. I'm feeling incredibly defeated right now and know that having a newborn can't make it much easier. Am I really being selfish and inconsiderate because I can't control my hormones that have smothered my sex drive? Do other couples who go through this bounce back from this problem?

To my husband who very well may see this post and recognize the story: Sorry for taking to the internet with our problems. I only want to help and make things better.

TLDR: Pregnancy majorly affecting otherwise active sex life in marriage. Husband feels rejected and when I tried to get sexy he couldn't get into it. Am I a selfish, sorry excuse for a wife and did it get better for others who have had this problem?

Submitted May 25, 2020 at 07:26PM by idkwhoaminow https://ift.tt/3gq228S