Is it wrong to tell my (22M) GF (24F) she has a month to either get over her fear of sex, open our relationship, or end our relationship?

It sounds horrible I know, but context is important. We have been dating for 6 years now, and we have a lot in common. She is a perfect partner in every other way, and we just in general get along great. Weve been living together for probably the past 4 years now, and we sleep in the same bed. We are both virgins, and she has anxiety about basically any new sensations that make her extremely scared to try sex. I feel as though I have been very patient with her, and havent really pushed my boundaries over these past 6 years. Ill admit guys, its been really hard. Its hard to describe what exactly 6 years of sexual rejection does to you. Im not an insecure person, but this is really starting to destroy my confidence. Im just starting to feel so unwanted. Ive gotten upset with her a few times ill admit, but being pushed away for this long really hurts me. We havent made any progress in like the past 4 years at least, and she still cant even put a tampon an inch inside of her. Its starting to reach the point that I dont know if we'll ever have sex. I know she isnt asexual, and she claims she wants to. I dont want to give her an ultimatum like this, but its seriously killing me. Thing is I dont want her to have sex with me because Ill leave her if she doesnt. I want her to WANT to. I know some religious people will wait years and get married first. Other people wait so why do I feel unable to? Am I a dick for even entertaining this idea? Are my feelings of hurt valid, or am I being ridiculous? Searching for others with my problem has been an ordeal. I feel really alone in all this. I just dont know what to do at this point. Sorry for the rant, Im just genuinely hurting and have a lot of trouble describing this complicated mix of emotions. What should I do?

TLDR: GF of 6 years has never had sex with me, and I dont know how im supposed to be feeling. Am I being a dick for expecting sex? How should I go about this?

Edit:To be honest, the title was done on impulse. I dont know if i could ever say something like that my emotions have just been running high. Even if we opened our relationship, its her intimacy I want, not a quick nut. I know this post was dumb and immature, please bare with me. Of course it would be wrong

Submitted August 24, 2019 at 01:50PM by throwawayiguess32 https://ift.tt/2ZqLQuy