Coworker [low 20s, F] tends to snap at me [26M] and I finally went to my boss after the latest one. Mutual friend [25M] wants me to drop it...

Basically put, my coworker [low 20s, F] has around 5-6 times publicly snapped at me [26M] while at work and I've finally had enough. For some background info, this coworker was the one who recommended me at our current place of work when a mutual friend [25M] (and also my only real friend for more than the past 10 years) of ours asked her to do so knowing they were looking for people and I needed a job (think retail level but more production-based). I generally get along with her but there have been a few times where she just snaps at me. One time a few years ago, she snapped at me multiple times in a single shift and after work I just broke down in tears outside the employee entrance (kinda of an ugly scene).

Some people have known what has been going on but I've been insistent not to drag HR into this mess each time its happened. Recently though I've had enough. This time she did so on a day with no manager and no supervisors for our team. Generally our supervisors tend to be the ones running around grabbing things our team needs for the day and making sure things are somewhat on track. I am not a supervisor but know what to do. A separate manager was checking in on us every know and then and had asked me to take on that role. My coworker and I were working in the same area together but I had to frequently leave her to work alone to grab things and make sure our whole team had to things we needed.

She did not like this. Eventually she left our working space, went directly to me while I was grabbing some things and layed into me. There were even a couple of people watching us "argue" (was kinda one-sided). I would later notify that other manager what happened. After work I realized I was done. In the next few days I would notify my supervisor and manager what happened. All three know of my history working with her; 2 of them have seen these outbursts on me before; all three know I do not want to involve HR right now. BUT I added to that next time I WILL involve HR.

I shouldn't have to be yelled at for doing my job. For doing what I was asked to do. Ever. All three of them agree.

Unfortunately, my manager had to talk to her after which she messaged our friend about how I reported her to HR. I explained the whole situation to him and he wants me to drop it, to go talk to her, and worst of all to just take it when asked what to do if she lashes out at me again since she gets stressed out easily while at work. She was apparently told she will be fired the next time it happens. His most recent message says if this is her reward for getting me that job and is also asking how will I pay her back if she gets fired. I have not responded back yet.

I feel sick, anxious, and have this constant headache thinking about this mess and really need to sleep. I just don't know what to do...

TL;DR: Coworker snaps at me a lot and I've had enough. Went to boss saying next time will involve HR. She gets told she will be fired the next time. Mutual friend wants me to drop it and to just take it. I just feel lost over this mess.

Submitted August 22, 2019 at 08:38PM by throwawaygrocer1 https://ift.tt/2L3QRnD