Hello everyone, my(27F), little brother (23M) and his girlfriend (21F) have been together for a couple of years now. Last year he asked our parents if she could move into the house as she needed to get out of her parents house. For context, my brother shared a room with my other brother (17 M) for their entire lives. In order to move her in they needed space and I just so happened to be in the process of moving out to live with my boyfriend. We had a family meeting about it and all agreed that if she needed a place to be we would try to make it work. I moved out by the end of the month and they moved in. Flash forward to now and my brother has become like a completely different person. He quit college, declined a promotion at his job (and ultimately quit) and is now working at the same company as his girlfriend (she helped him get the job). The main issue is that when they’re at home, they don’t interact with the family at all. If she has to use the bathroom or take a shower, my brother has to walk her there and walk her back. They bought a separate fridge and keep their groceries separate and cook only for themselves ( the separate groceries aren’t the big deal, it’s the complete separateness while being in the same communal spaces that is jarring) my family always prepares enough for everyone, shared food, shared chores, shared spaces. My brother and his girlfriend only think of themselves in this regard. My other brother invited him out once and he declined because he wouldn’t be able to take his girlfriend with them since their were only two tickets to the event. I understand that it is normal once you’ve become an adult and started your life to focus on your own needs; however, I don’t think that applies when you’re living with your family. There should be some level of closeness I think. I’m mostly on Reddit to ask how i should bring up these issues with my brother? I think I want to discuss it with my parents first and see where they stand on the issue since they live in the house with them. Since I’m just an outside observer maybe this behavior seems odder than it is? Any advice would be much appreciated.
TLDR: my brother moved his girlfriend into my parents house and changed everything about himself from his job to his personality. They treat the rest of the family like strangers and don’t have separate lives away from each other. The attachment is honestly freaking me out. I am seeking advice on how to address the situation and if I even should?
Submitted April 03, 2023 at 02:11AM by peeachrings https://ift.tt/3uTByfr
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