I know the title is a little squirrely but i couldn't find a better way to put it. Last night my friend and i had a heart to heart and honestly it broke me on the inside because it's the first time that he and i really got honest with each other about our emotions and whatnot since he tends to hide them. To put it long story short, we work together and at work he has a very dominant personality. He has a commanding presence. Literally everyone defers to him including our boss and he's only second in command. Everyone including myself goes to him for everything: work related or not because he seems like that guy who just has EVERYTHING figured out. Got girl troubles, he's your guy. Need help fixing something at work he's a fucking rainmaker. Need help figuring out where you're going in life, he can guide you in the right direction.
But last night while we were talking, he confided in me that he hates being everyone's anchor while he has no anchor. He hates being practically a god that everyone looks up to. He literally just wants to fade away and no one notice. Now i know i cannot change everyone else's attitude, but i can at least change mine. What are some things I can change about myself or some actions i can take to give him some of that existential relief he's wanting? I tried asking him, but he kept brushing it off and moving on to something else so i dropped it with him.
I know this is a pretty hard question and probably above Reddits paygrade but i thought I'd at least try to ask so i can get a starting point. I'd gladly answer any follow up questions anyone may have to help out.
TLDR: Friend wants to stop being treated like he has all the answers by our coworkers and friend groups and while i can't change their ways i want to work to change mine.
Submitted November 02, 2021 at 06:44AM by CreativeInitial2 https://ift.tt/3BDi8ph
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