Let me preface this by saying that these months have been patchy. With quarantine, we’ve been with each other constantly for the past year (while learning to live together, officially) in a new city and with the good times comes bad times. We’ve gotten into fights and learning to communicate.
Last night, we were out for drinks and a stranger asked us how we met. We told her. And after we did, she turned to her boyfriend and said, “Aw! And of course because you guys are SOULMATES!” To my dismay, my fiancé’s initial reaction was to scoff and say “eh!”
I was taken back and upset, and I had to explain to him why and how I would be upset that my fiancé would scoff at the idea of us being soulmates (to a stranger!). It’s not so much the concept of soulmate itself, but felt a bit of a reflection of how he felt the current state of our relationship is. When we arrived home, we started arguing, considering breaking up (albeit maybe not seriously but in the heat of the moment), and then seriously talking.
He explained that he doesn’t necessarily believe in soulmates, that he believes I’m that one person he knows he wants to be with and the only “love of his life” but soulmates are fairy tales and “Disney.” And he said that what our relationship can be challenging and by “definition” not the meaning of soulmates in the perfect sense, but that it’s real and doesn’t take away from the fact. And that he was truly sorry for having that reaction but that was his processing (after having heard that) especially with how we’ve been working at it these past few months.
*I do feel like I need to add in that after three months of dating he slipped that I was his soulmate (four years ago, he claims it was a different time to which he explained his beliefs on it has changed).
I’m still upset but I sort of understand his response? I just am concerned his very rash reaction was in response to how he feels about our relationship currently.
tl;dr should I be upset my fiancé scoffed at me being his soulmate?
Submitted June 04, 2021 at 05:30AM by clumsj https://ift.tt/34OMWWg
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