New account so she doesn’t automatically see this.
I (25F) just started seeing a girl (25F) a few months ago. We have been clear about our strong feelings towards each other and that we are exclusively talking, but want to take things slow. I have been planning to ask her to officially be my girlfriend next month.
On one of our first dates she mentioned she had cancer in high school but has been in remission for over 8 years so it’s nothing to worry about, just when I see pictures from her prom to not be shocked she’s bald. She has made a few comments here and there about hating people who think of her as sick or weak because of it even when she was going through treatment. I promised her I would never consider her sick or weak. A few weeks ago she started to get sick and went to the hospital. The doctors ran a whole bunch of tests and confirmed the cancer is back. She doesn’t like to talk about it and I’ve really tried to not ask too many questions so I don’t even know what type of cancer she has besides it affects her blood. Since her diagnoses she has continued to get a lot sicker and spends most her time near the toilet. She’s from another country and has no family here, and I don’t know if she has even told them.
I have completely fallen for this girl, I would move to her home country next week to take care of her if she needed. But some of my friends are saying to not get too attached because if she doesn’t want me to think of her as sick or weak she might completely cut me off. Am I setting myself up for heartbreak?
The only people I’ve ever known with cancer are mine & my friends grandparents who all lose their battles. I have no idea how to support her or make her life easier so would love any advice from anyone who has any. Or should I just let her be if that is easier for her? It is so early on in our relationship I just want to do what is best for her.
If anyone has been in a similar situation please give me some advice on what to do. Thank you for reading all of this.
tl;dr — The girl I am talking to was told her cancer is back after 8 years of remission and I don’t know how best to support her or if I need to prepare for things to end.
Submitted June 21, 2021 at 08:56PM by anon17682 https://ift.tt/3gJ2x02
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