My(f26) husband(m28) has been giving advice to a coworker about how to make his gay son straight behind his wife's back

I want to preface this by saying that I don't know how my husband is when he's at work. He works an office job, and I work in a daycare as a receptionist, and we also recently purchased our first home. However, everything I learned came from an email from the coworker's wife that included evidence of conversations between my husband and her husband in regards to their son

Louise and Edward (we'll call them that) recently had their son come out, and from Louise's email and the messages she provided between her husband and mine, she has been supportive while her husband pretended (in her words) to be, but instead has asked my husband for advice while at work and expressed how he isn't comfortable about it, and my husband has supposedly been trying to comfort him and give him advice on how to "fix him" despite his wife

The messages she sent me showed them talking about it and ideas to talk to him one on one without the wife, along with how they're trying to get together sometime outside of work to discuss it over dinner or something

I never knew my husband felt this way before this situation, but I was able to call Louise and apologize and try to comfort her to the best of my ability although not knowing her well, and she feels incredibly hurt and lied to by all of this, and I want to help her to the best of my ability as well as her son if possible in any way

She said that she hasn't talked to her husband yet, but that she's considering talking to him with one of her parents since she doesn't think she can do it by herself, and I told her that I'm disgusted with my husband just like she was, but from a different perspective of not having kids yet and not wanting to have kids with someone who thinks like this

As of right now, I'm still trying to digest all of this emotionally, but I can't express just how angry I am at my husband, and I don't want to be with him anymore because of it

However, outside of my selfish ambitions... she told me everything yesterday, and I'm yet to confront my husband because Louise said that she's not sure how she wants to go about it yet, and despite it being hard for me NOT to bring it up, I don't want to jeopardize her in any way and make things harder, since this is about her safety and her son first and foremost and whatever she feels best to do in her timing. But before I do anything, I want to ask what I should do and when with everything she provided on my end to support her. I'm strongly considering divorce, since I don't want kids with someone who thinks like this, but I firstmost want to help her and support her in her timing, but she doesn't know what she wants to do yet, and to be honest, it's kind of hard to sit on everything she told me and not confront him, but just thinking about her safety and her son's keeps me grounded, and I just want advice on what to do here moving forward

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Edit: In the messages between my husband and Edward that she showed me, my husband said that if it were his son, he'd "set him straight" and mentioned punishing him by using consequences and not driving him to sports specifically to name a few, along with having a family member potentially talk to him to help him

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TL;DR: My husband has been giving advice to a coworker about how to make his gay son straight despite his wife who's supportive of him, but she sent me an email containing messages between them and how they've been planning to meet about it outside of work and come up with ideas to try and make him straight

Submitted June 21, 2021 at 07:55PM by throwramercw https://ift.tt/3iZQj4G