I (21F) had a miscarriage while temporarily long distance. Do I tell him?

throwaway cuz i don't want this on my main and my bf's friends use reddit i think. sorry about formatting, i'm on mobile.

my boyfriend (21M) and i (21F) have been together for about 2.5 years now. i'm away due to summer break from college and have been for maybe 7 weeks now. my period was nine days late when i got a positive result on two pregnancy tests. a few days after that when i was making arrangements to sort it out, i started bleeding heavily. that was a week ago at this point, i saw my obgyn to confirm. i still have sporadic bleeding and intense pain at times which has improved gradually.

so, i'm doing okay honestly. it hurts physically but i have some chronic pain issues in that region anyway and i've gotten good at functioning around it. i wouldn't have kept it anyway and i've never wanted to have kids or be pregnant, and i know my bf agrees as we've discussed this a few times during our relationship.

what i'm not sure about is whether or not to tell him. he's prone to anxiety and he's already going through a lot due to issues between his parents at the moment (edit to note that this is a really bad situation where the police have been involved once already and might have to be again + cps). i don't want or need him to be worried about me and he generally prefers to avoid thinking about this stuff. but i've never been in this position before and i don't know if there's some moral obligation for me to tell him, or how long is fine to wait before telling him because like i said, he's already in a really rough emotional situation that hasn't been good for his mental health.

if you were in this situation would you tell your partner/want to be told? and if so when?

tl;dr - ldr with my bf for the summer, found out i was pregnant and then miscarried shortly after, very early on. i'm fine but my bf is going through a lot of stuff right now and i don't know if it's a good idea to tell him now, or if i should tell him at all. we would have terminated anyway as we've agreed on multiple occasions.

Submitted June 22, 2021 at 12:06AM by throwra_honeyclove https://ift.tt/3wQz8qz