How do I get husband to stop pressuring me for sex and getting angry when I say no?

My (f23) husband (m23) was perfect until we moved in together about five years ago. We have been together for 8 years. After a year of living together, there was an incident where we were in the middle of having sex and I started to get uncomfortable and turned off due to pain and just wasn’t into it anymore so I wanted to stop. I asked him with tears in my eyes if we could stop and he simply changed positions and said “it’s okay” and kept going. I just stared at the wall with tears running down my face until he finished. I felt betrayed, like my trust in him sexually was gone. I don’t know why I didn’t just make him stop. After that we had an issue where he would pressure me for sex nearly every night and would sulk or act angry towards me if I didn’t want to. I think this became an issue because originally he didn’t need to pressure me for sex. I was naturally into it without him begging and sulking for it. But after the incident happened I struggled with wanting to have sex. Anyways, I would always give in to the pressure and do it because I was afraid he would leave me or not like me anymore if I didn’t. This even occurred on our wedding night when I was four months pregnant and nauseous. He was so angry I wouldn’t “consummate” the marriage. Flash forward to the present and this is still an issue. Ive set boundaries and made it clear I won’t sleep with him if I’m not in the mood. I’ve explained how his actions make me feel worthless as a person. In the midst of these discussions he says he understands and acts like he will change. And he usually does for a few weeks and sometimes a month or two. But at some point he gets frustrated when it’s been a few days since we have had sex and he resorts right back to the behavior. He’ll apologize and swear it won’t happen again but it always does. He is a good husband outside the bedroom and a good father but I don’t know if can or even should deal with this anymore. I feel like I’m only valued when I give him sex. The older I get the more I realize how wrong his actions are but I love him and don’t know if this is worth destroying my family over. What would you do? 

TL;DR: Husband pressured me for sex for years and still does. Gets angry when I refuse. Do I leave him or is there hope?

Submitted June 22, 2021 at 10:25PM by PassionateIntrovert_ https://ift.tt/3vUxpyV