My mom left me with my paternal grandparents when I was 3 and never raised me. My father died when I turned 7. She would every so often visit me but we never had a mother-daughter relationship. In fact, I consider my grandma to be my mom.
As an adult I wanted to become closer to my mom, as she seemed very keen to be in my life. It was going well in the beginning until I realized she had problematic beliefs. For example,when my now husband and I were dating we had one big fight. Her advice was for me to fake a strong headache in the back of my head, because he wound have to take it seriously as bring me to the hospital. She believed that it would scare him into accepting whatever I wanted. I didn’t do that, btw.
In the past few years she has become completely radicalized politically, obsessed with conspiracy theories. I had a lot of arguments online with her,and I think it was driven by me being embarrassed of her behavior. I did say that she was becoming dumber with each conspiracy theory she learned and that I feel embarrassed.
My uncle (her brother) posted that I was a “rebel without cause” and had no respect for my mother. He said “we only have one mother” and “don’t come crawling to her asking for mommy. She will be the one rejecting you because you are so disrespectful and a brat”.
I know in my heart he is wrong but I wonder if part of him is right, and if I should give her motherly respect.
Any thoughts? Please be honest, don’t sugar coat it.
Tl;DR: My biological mom and I argue a lot and my uncle called me a brat and said I owe her motherly respect. Do I?
Submitted June 21, 2021 at 03:28AM by bubble_2107 https://ift.tt/3gUvkhd
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