I(26M) found out my fiance's(30F) fan page account for a popular TV show on Twitter and Instagram. Unsure on how to Proceed.

A little backstory: My fiance and I have been engaged for 8 months and we've known each other for about four years. We don't live together and are long distancing this. Both of us live with our parents and our other siblings. We live in a Muslim country so can't be together unless married.

She's a very private person, rarely shows affection (has a different love language where she will absolutely insult me on everything and I know that's her way of showing affection), and doesn't really let people in. She shares most things with me which I know she doesn't really tell anyone else. We're good on the relationship front and I have no complaints.

Last week, a famous TV show was premiering it's fourth season and she put up a story on Snapchat about that being her best Monday morning in two years. Later in the day I asked her about it and she said that she won a contest where she was invited for a ten minute video call with the main cast and that happened on Monday morning right before the premiere kicked off. She was super excited about that and told me all what went down. I was happy for her too and later on asked her why she didn't tell me about winning the competition and the video call to which she replied that the video call just happened today and regarding winning the competition, she didn't want to share anything unless that happened. That was understood as she's a very private person and I was happy to be involved.

During our conversation, she sent me a picture and said that look, the main cast actor had liked her tweet (It was a like on a picture, the tweet's text and URL was available only). I was like cool, that's amazing and didn't pay much heed to that. Today, we were talking on the phone and I asked her something for some twitter related stuff (I'm never active on twitter, haven't added my fiance on that either) and logged in and searched her name and found her profile with her real name and everything. She said that "oh, this isn't my right (or active) profile" but quickly dismissed what she said and the conversation came to a natural end. I was intrigued by this.

When the call finished, I opened up that picture she sent me and typed that URL manually which showed her tweet. A profile came up which wasn't hers but the profile description showed that it was her (her job designation, her interests in basketball etc). I straight up knew it was her. I scrolled and also found a picture she had posted which had our company laptop and the taskbar icons as per her settings and all stuff which basically confirmed it is her. There is absolutely no doubt that the account is her's, there is also other stuff which confirms this but don't want to make this post longer than it is.

The Twitter account was 3-4 months old and there was also another link to an instagram account which was 9 months old. Both of these accounts had basic super fan posting of their main characters (all female and two of them are gay). The posts centered around how cute they looked, how adorable they are, super fan girl stuff. The Instagram account had a lot of traffic and regular posting about the in-love main characters.

Now the reason I am writing this post: I am absolutely fine with her having an account like this where she is able to express the love she has for the show and it's cast. The main thing bothering me is:1- how she kept this a secret from me all this time, I feel a little taken back that she would not trust me with this even though I know this is something nobody else knows and she would never tell anybody this too.2- She shows A LOT of affection and love to the characters there but she rarely does with me. I think this is because it's very easy to show affection or love to fictional characters and people you don't have a real thing with. If I'm making sense.

I know she loves me and everyone has a different love language. If you've seen the meme about "my bf showing me love and affection" and the girl has her middle finger's up. That's us. I love her and I know she does too.

Now coming on to what I'm asking you guys: I'm not sure how to proceed. You should know that I'm happy that she has these accounts and I fully support her. Should I tell her that I found out about these accounts of her's and I had no idea she was such a fan and I am amazed by all the amazing posts she's made?OR should I wait for her to tell me about this herself? Which I think will not happen. Either way, I will never confront her about showing more affection to the people in the show than she did to me as I can't really control or dictate that and I would never want her to show fake affection or think less/needy of me because of all of this.

**TL;DR;** : Found fiance's fan page account. Unsure on how to proceed.

Submitted July 31, 2020 at 05:35PM by throwawaypk137 https://ift.tt/312TfmE